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So, the words of his last ex (in a text) were: "even your best friend's parents warned me that you'd use me Out of convenience and then when it was no longer easy, you'd dump me." But why would he only use me and not really love me? He did come home w me
For one holiday and would take me out to dinner on my bday and get me gifts.
Your comprehension and understanding skills appear to quite lacking for one who says they are an "MD".
You were used because you were easy to use, accept the fact that he does not, never will and more than likely never did love you, want you or had any plans to marry you, ever.
Easy sex and it only cost him a few dinners, gifts and meeting the parents, he got off pretty cheap comparatively.
If he didn't throw you a bone at least once in the bluest of blue moons, you almost certainly would have been gone - no matter how low your self-esteem - so he tossed something your way every so often.
He wasn't ready to ditch you entirely yet; he still wanted whatever you were serving...sex, cleaning the house, half-paying rent or whatever.
Interesting. But then how do I tell the difference between him and someone who sincerely
Loves me? I mean I guess he only ever said "I love you" back after 14 months when I kept bringing it up, and immediately after tried to sneak out w another girl. But he did say "I'll marry you someday when I decide time is right as long as you don't keep wanting to talk about it," and he maintains even to this day that he just dumped me bc I wanted to make plans for future and talk about it.
If he didn't throw you a bone at least once in the bluest of blue moons, you almost certainly would have been gone - no matter how low your self-esteem - so he tossed something your way every so often.
He wasn't ready to ditch you entirely yet; he still wanted whatever you were serving...sex, cleaning the house, half-paying rent or whatever.
I think you just threw the op a bone. This poor soul has been hanging on every thread hoping for some kind of hope. Some glimmer of something, When in reality this guy is just so bad for her.
And you just threw her some "temporary" hope. Come on Jerz, what are you doing? Now, she's going to think that there is a reason beyond the obvious why he stayed around. This poster will somehow make whatever bad reason, good.
Your killing her Jerz. Your killing her. Poor thing. Op, I feel your pain. I truly do. This guy is not for you. He's no good. The sooner you learn that the better. No hope here. Sorry, I hope you heal.
But he's all I want. I should just convey to him that I don't care about marriage and just want him to make me happy
he didn't so far, he didn't even sincerely try and he never will. He is just stringing you along until something better or just different shows up. Dumping girls so easily shows that he is either immature or not able to truly love.
I am sorry, but I recommend to you to read your very first post over and over again until it sinks in what a piece of ... he is. Print it out and read it again and again. You deserve better.
That's a good idea. I'm just at a point where I'm so angry, like over his text "hey soon you'll move and find all sorts of men who admire you and want to marry you..." I ignored that but I Want to say, look, you knew this temporary travel Position was hands down the best move for my career, and I also involved you from day 1 asking what you thought (he told Me to just make decision based upon what's best for my career and not him "bc I certainly wouldn't base it on you if I were the one making the decision"). I told him this travel position will make it easier to see my
Family that year, and if he wasn't ready to even get engaged / move forward a bit in next couple of years, then that's fine but I'm gonna choose to do what's best for my career family in meantime, it isn't in my belief system anyhow to be a live in gf for years on end. (Stupid that he wouldn't propose to avoid that considering hed stop having sex w me at random times and say he's a Christian).
Should I tell him I'm sorry for
Pressuring him about marriage?
No. You should leave him the **** alone.
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