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Why do I need a therapist just because I recognize I should've kept my mouth shut about the future and want to figure out how to get my ex back? Bc he otherwise really did love me
For 2 years
Why do I need a therapist just because I recognize I should've kept my mouth shut about the future and want to figure out how to get my ex back? Bc he otherwise really did love me
For 2 years
Therapist might be able to help you getting back with your ex. Nobody here can.
No! My therapist says I should want nothing to do w him.
Find another therapist, one who feels abusive relationships are to be encouraged.
OTOH, you could always try entrapping him. Have you considered faking a pregnancy? I've heard that can work.
A third option is to go out of your way to text him in order to tell him you are no longer texting him. Follow up with a VM explaining you will no longer be calling and leaving him VMs. To make sure he understands the situation, send him a letter asking him to confirm in writing, via text, or via VM that he realizes you are not communicating with him.
It wasn't abusive, he just didn't want to talk about the future or marriage or anything serious for probably 5 years and never wanted me To bring it up . That's not abusive, just to say he knows himself and that it'll take longer for him to propose if I keep bringing up/asking about future
It wasn't abusive, he just didn't want to talk about the future or marriage or anything serious for probably 5 years and never wanted me To bring it up . That's not abusive, just to say he knows himself and that it'll take longer for him to propose if I keep bringing up/asking about future
What do you mean, "probably 5" years?
You said before he refused to give you ANY time frame.
He's right. You did break the rules. You won't be getting him back. You screwed it up - if you had just kept your trap zipped for another four years and 363 days, you'd be on your way to a diamond ring right now.
So very sorry, now that you've supplied that information it's clear that it's over. Better luck with the next carrot-dangling antisocial creep. They're out there, it's like the old saying, "There are plenty of manipulative users in the sea" (don't know if you've heard that one? So true! So DON'T give up hope).
What if the therapist is just lying so she can get her hands on the OP's boyfriend?
I'll bet the therapist is perfectly willing to wait 5 years, too.
Poor OP, she walked right into this person's trap.
OP, I don't like to have a suspicious mind but don't be surprised if you see your therapist and ex's engagement photo in the Nov. 28, 2020 edition of the Times.
You said before he refused to give you ANY time frame.
He's right. You did break the rules. You won't be getting him back. You screwed it up - if you had just kept your trap zipped for another four years and 363 days, you'd be on your way to a diamond ring right now.
So very sorry, now that you've supplied that information it's clear that it's over. Better luck with the next carrot-dangling antisocial creep. They're out there, it's like the old saying, "There are plenty of manipulative users in the sea" (don't know if you've heard that one? So true! So DON'T give up hope).
Again...GL.
I kept saying "I just need an approx time frame, just wondering what you see for your life" and then he ends up saying 5 years. I said "oh I'm surprised, didn't realize it'd be that long" and he claimed it was previously shorter, but then he lengthened it because me wanting to talk about the future ticked him off. So the more I wanted to discuss our future, instead of just "trusting him to do it whenever the time is right," he said the longer he'd take to propose. I don't understand
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