Anyone REALLY give up on love , tell your story please (dates, singles)
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First off, I think it's completely fine for a women or man to reject a person because of their physical disability. People with physical disabilities have extra needs, both emotionally and physically, and most people won't be equipped with the tools to handle that. Furthermore, it may making doing certain activities that "able bodied" people enjoy doing together an impossibility, such as hiking, long walks on the beach, and so forth. So I'm 100% ok if an able person is going to reject someone with disabilities.
My experiences can all be summed up with me hearing the lady saying that they like me as a friend....or some other excuse. My cerebral palsy means that I certainly have mobility issues. And although I'm able to walk and run, things are more of a burden for me. So many women have no trouble being friends with me, but nothing beyond that. It won't matter if you went to a top-20 university, make a six figure salary, are erudite, are physically fit, regularly volunteer, are an active participant at church, and are well spoken. Trust me, all of those apply to me...but CP is the kiss of death. Of course, as I said earlier, I completely understand why most women don't want to get involved with men with those issues. My suggestion to others such as myself is to just focus on yourself. Get a good education, find a top job at Google, Goldman Sachs, etc, and focus on accumulating wealth. At a later time (say mid 30s), you can then focus on trying to find TRUE love.
lmao...is that really the advice you're giving ?
focusing on increasing wealth...then maybe trying to find love in your late 30's to 40's?
focusing on increasing wealth...then maybe trying to find love in your late 30's to 40's?
at that point...you should just not bother.
Yes, accomplish as much as you can now in terms of finances and intellectual growth.
By one's mid 30s, women will generally have matured and will realize that you possess many of the important characteristics that they're looking for....namely stability and a good head.
Young women are more likely to be immature and focused on epicurean pursuits. You should
try to date in your 20s, but the primary goal should just be to gain experience given that women at
this age range are immature and less capable of handling someone with a serious physical disability.
I'm 32 and now that I've attained success (both financially and intellectually), I'll be starting my
journey to find love in the next year.
Yes, accomplish as much as you can now in terms of finances and intellectual growth.
By one's mid 30s, women will generally have matured and will realize that you possess many of the important characteristics that they're looking for....namely stability and a good head.
Young women are more likely to be immature and focused on epicurean pursuits. You should
try to date in your 20s, but the primary goal should just be to gain experience given that women at
this age range are immature and less capable of handling someone with a serious physical disability.
I'm 32 and now that I've attained success (both financially and intellectually), I'll be starting my
journey to find love in the next year.
Sorry friend. I have news for you. The world doesn't work that way. I'm 47 (almost 48) and women my age STILL ignore me. It doesn't matter what you have. If you're disabled, you're alone forever. THAT's how the world works.
First off, I think it's completely fine for a women or man to reject a person because of their physical disability. People with physical disabilities have extra needs, both emotionally and physically, and most people won't be equipped with the tools to handle that. Furthermore, it may making doing certain activities that "able bodied" people enjoy doing together an impossibility, such as hiking, long walks on the beach, and so forth. So I'm 100% ok if an able person is going to reject someone with disabilities.
My experiences can all be summed up with me hearing the lady saying that they like me as a friend....or some other excuse. My cerebral palsy means that I certainly have mobility issues. And although I'm able to walk and run, things are more of a burden for me. So many women have no trouble being friends with me, but nothing beyond that. It won't matter if you went to a top-20 university, make a six figure salary, are erudite, are physically fit, regularly volunteer, are an active participant at church, and are well spoken. Trust me, all of those apply to me...but CP is the kiss of death. Of course, as I said earlier, I completely understand why most women don't want to get involved with men with those issues. My suggestion to others such as myself is to just focus on yourself. Get a good education, find a top job at Google, Goldman Sachs, etc, and focus on accumulating wealth. At a later time (say mid 30s), you can then focus on trying to find TRUE love.
I'll also point out that many disabled people don't want to date other disabled people for the reasons you listed. My ex-roommate has a laundry list of physical disabilities associated with a genetic disorder. She prefers to date able-bodied people because when she's dated men with disabilities, they often couldn't help her when she got stuck with things. Her life is exhausting - having to accommodate someone who also has disabilities makes things a lot harder for her. She lives an amazingly active life that she's built to accommodate her physical handicaps - having to take into account someone else's physical limitations would definitely complicate things.
I am officially single again... And I will most likely keep it that way. I've met one woman who was actually worth the risk and she's dead. Plus whenever I approached the women looked at me like I was Elliot Rodger so I am content if I never date again. It isn't worth it.
Yes, accomplish as much as you can now in terms of finances and intellectual growth.
By one's mid 30s, women will generally have matured and will realize that you possess many of the important characteristics that they're looking for....namely stability and a good head.
Young women are more likely to be immature and focused on epicurean pursuits. You should
try to date in your 20s, but the primary goal should just be to gain experience given that women at
this age range are immature and less capable of handling someone with a serious physical disability.
I'm 32 and now that I've attained success (both financially and intellectually), I'll be starting my
journey to find love in the next year.
By one's mid 30s, women will generally have matured and will realize that you possess many of the important characteristics that they're looking for....namely stability and a good head.
Are you freaking kidding me?! You're basically telling the poor guy that he's not good enough for young women, only for women over 30, who got partying out of their system already. And even then, they will want him for the "stability" he provides, not for who he is. Like fun, or attractive, or intriguing. Is that the message you want to send?
That advice sound like it came straight out of... you know. I thought the City-Data crowd was against that stuff.
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You're basically telling the poor guy that he's not good enough for young women, only for women over 30, who got partying out of their system already. And even then, they will want him for the "stability" he provides, not for who he is. Like fun, or attractive, or intriguing. Is that the message you want to send?
