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I graduated from college over a year ago. I'm 23 and I do notice a kind of social stigma about being single. I think it is almost expected at most work events (like the yearly Christmas party) that you will show up with a mate. If you don't, you're the odd man out and people (men and women) start to question you.
At this point in life, I am focusing more on getting situated and financially job and trying to advance.
There is a girl I work with who just started that I am interested in getting to know better. But, I've found that work is also not the best place to start a relationship.
Why are people who aren't married by the time they're 30 considered gay or people tell them they're going to be lonely later on in life. I know most people are married with babies when they're 30 maybe this has something to do with it, if we do what everybody else does were considered normal or something. This seems like something that everyone would have believed in the 1950s but it's still going on today, and even the women on Sex and the City got married at the end of the show. I heard that Paula Deen's son was gay because he's in his late 30s and he is still single and not a father yet.
But the real question I'm asking is are we supposed to end up married with babies and a job and a home to call our own? And why are people considered gay if they're not married by a certain age?
OMG!!!!!!
I'm GAY????????????? (Not that there's anything wrong with that! )
Why are people who aren't married by the time they're 30 considered gay or people tell them they're going to be lonely later on in life. I know most people are married with babies when they're 30 maybe this has something to do with it, if we do what everybody else does were considered normal or something. This seems like something that everyone would have believed in the 1950s but it's still going on today, and even the women on Sex and the City got married at the end of the show. I heard that Paula Deen's son was gay because he's in his late 30s and he is still single and not a father yet.
But the real question I'm asking is are we supposed to end up married with babies and a job and a home to call our own? And why are people considered gay if they're not married by a certain age?
This post doesnt really pertain to me..but I think anyone who makes a statement like that..its just plain ignorant.
Gay men are notorious for not wanting to be committed in relationships with anyone....another reason is because it is strange for a straight man not to committ to a woman by the age of 30. So he either is GAY, closet gay, closet bisexual, narcissistic, or cannot find a good partner (I've heard horror stories about abusive women).
I'd say it's atypical for men not to commit before thirty, but it's not weird. And I hardly assume that single, never married men are gay and/or selfish. It'd be none of my business anyway. I'd rather marry the right woman later in life than rush into it because I don't want people to get the wrong idea.
Unfortunately, however, there is that stigma against being single and never married, and it's just stupid. Just goes to show you how society expects conformity, and when you don't conform you get judged and treated as something you're not.
Stop and look at some of the people you know who are in lousy marriages or have had multiple marriages. I fully believe that these are people who should have waited to get married or perhaps never gotten married.
Fact: Marriage and parenthood is not for everyone. Most people consider a person unfulfilled and incomplete without a mate and children. They are wrong. They are projecting onto others their own values. It is quite possible to be single and childless and have a fulfilling, happy life.
I believe that a great number of people can't deal with singles. I think many are secretly envious of the freedom. And I think it threatens them, especially if they themselves are single because it takes more people out of the market.
guys that do have interest in me and ask me out are not my type or i dont see the potential. i did dated a few but i just dont see myself being happy with them. i have to REALLY like you or else i will get bored easily thus, u wont be happy with me. ever.
my family thinks im gay. i think im gay. why the F will i not date women? oh yeah. im fugly.
im terribly shy.
i dont trust people. guys that ask me out. i ALWAYS think they just want sex or they would rape me or kill me. ya im THAT morbid.
guys that do have interest in me and ask me out are not my type or i dont see the potential. i did dated a few but i just dont see myself being happy with them. i have to REALLY like you or else i will get bored easily thus, u wont be happy with me. ever.
my family thinks im gay. i think im gay. why the F will i not date women? oh yeah. im fugly.
im terribly shy.
i dont trust people. guys that ask me out. i ALWAYS think they just want sex or they would rape me or kill me. ya im THAT morbid.
Not condemning you for your ways.. but from the sounds of it.. you could use a little ego boost.. I think you could use a little counseling to help you with your low self esteem. To call yourself fugly is just not right... no one should think of themselves like that...
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