Have You Ever Dated Someone With No Ambition? (kids, jealous, different)
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Dated? I am married to one. :x It is very frusterating. She could have been paid to go to college. She tried because I was forcing her. Well, each semester she flunked out. After a few years of here and there school, she finally just gave up. Which is what she wanted. No ambition to further herself.
She's been a housewife now for quite a few years. She sits on her butt all day and watches tv. If I would like a clean house, I have to clean it myself. Oh, she has a 15 year old and a 14 year old from a previous marriage. They keep the house 'picked up' for her when she asks. I ask and I get backtalk. She is quick to defend them. Housewife and no clean house. And she very rarely cooks. We eat out 29 days a week.
She doesn't want to work. She said when our youngest, now eight, starts school she would get a job. Then we wouldn't need daycare. Well, youngest is going into third grade now. She still sits on her butt all day and does nothing.
So one may think that she may be ambitious in her health/physical activity. Over the years I have quietly sat back and watched her gain about 100 pounds. She isn't even ambitious here.
Wow. I have just totally ragged on my wife. Uncool. I'm going to end this now. I'd delete this post, but it is nice to get something off of MY chest for once!
sad story. Why on earth would you put up with this?
and what exactly did you want her to do? Reinvent the hot water?! Learn to dance tribal dances?!
What's with all this "ambition"...?! If somebody has a decent education and a decent job paying him decent money, he's fine with me. I feel the same way about myself.
I love this story and have posted it before. Granted, there is a slight difference between fishing for fun and fishing for a living (the safety net is obviously missing), but it's essentially the same. Only that the fisherman has had a nice, easy, and fulfilling life all along whereas the big-time businessman has wasted most of his in the rat race. I always get some perspective when i go down to mexico. All it takes for poor people there to have fun is to park their trucks somewhere, play some music, drink some beers, talk, laugh, and dance. More than can be said about most of us pecking on our keyboards pursuing "goals" and "ambitions"!
I've talked about this before. It's sad for me to observe when i'm there how the nice restaurants on the beaches are full of those of us with "ambitions." they're the ones with the empty eyes, those having no conversations, and those splitting credit cards after "romantic" Dinners. Would be nice if the locals who know how to have fun can afford to be there instead of these "ambitious" zombies wasting the ambience.
What if i consider a chick to not be ambitious if she refuses to get her girl friends involved; because it could be viewed that she may have trust issues with girl friends. Is it wrong to be able to trust a friend?
It's easy for me to think that people (myself included) isn't being ambitious enough, which always in the end makes me somewhat frustrated and irritated, but I did date some guys who had no ambition when I was in college.
Every time I hear the story of the fishermen, I can't help but wonder when the fisherman last saw a dentist and if he still has teeth. It's a good story only if proper medical and dental care are available to him.
Well fortunately he's not an independent fisherman in the US. If he were, he'd definitely not have proper medical and dental care available to him.
The extra-special problem with the non-ambitious is that they often don't understand your attitude towards goals, life, etc...they may have a harder time supporting your goals because they don't understand them (and under some circumstances, may even MOCK them)...it can make life hard when the person who is supposed to be closest to you doesn't understand or can't relate to how you just are innately.
It's not going to happen, it's not really in their nature. Don't get me wrong, women can work their buts off, but just in a different way (i.e, raising children, attracting a mate).
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