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18 to 64 is a large age range. When you shrink it down to the 18 to 30 crowd, single guys outnumber single chicks. Single chicks don't start outnumbering guys into their mid-50s Time to go to Eastern Europe.
I was at a travel Meetup event recently in which there were 19 women and 8 men present. It wasn't a single's travel group: two of the men were married. One of the men asked about the gender imbalance and was told that was not a travel thing; it was a Portland social dynamic. When I turned around a few minutes later, he was gone.
Maybe you uncovered the SECRET: they killed that guy while you weren't looking!!
I noticed the same thing too!
While living in the DC Metropolitan area, I notice that there are way more women here than men. This is probably why many hardworking, single, attractive women like myself are still single.
When it comes to finding a good, single man in this area, your odds are just like the odds of winning the "Power Ball Lottery" because there is a huge gap in the male to female ratio. Men in the eastern cities seem to take advantage of this male shortage because 90 percent of my friends from this area admitted to being cheated on by their spouses.
I wonder if this is part of why I struggle finding decent men. I had no idea this area had a shortage. I mean I can look around and see I have tons of single female friends but not as many single man friends to match up with the single ladies.
Does anyone notice the shortage in the number of available men in the eastern cities & the surplus of available men in the western cities?
I wonder what could be the cause for this?
All of the tech jobs are on the west coast. Men flock there, and it becomes a paradise for women who can be overly selective.
Having said that, I live on the west coast, and have women initiate conversations/touching multiple dozens of times each month, so....
It's actually a similar story in Canada. The male-dominant towns are the ones that were oil-rich, with mines, in Western/central Canada. I imagine now that their economies are tanking that is poised to change, however.
Born/raised here in the Bay Area, but I've had more success with ladies who live immediately outside the region (Sacramento as well).
They don't call it "Man Jose" for nuthin'.
That's only San Jose. It's not the whole Bay Area, not by a long shot. It's never crossed my mind to look in Sacramento. The pickings in the East Bay are enough for me.
I have been following this thread since this happens to be my reality. I went to a college where the ratio of females to males was 5 to 1. Imagine those odds. Then I went to a city DC that has many more single women than men. Story of my life Even my profession is dominated by women.
Studies have shown that when women outnumber men, the hookup culture is rampant. One of the reasons is because if a woman doesn't give the man what he wants then he will easily find someone else that will. My college was like that. People didn't date they just hooked up and that was in the early 1990s.
The rise of single mothers is probably also due to the fact that there just are not enough men. A woman can either remain childless forever or take it upon herself to have a baby. In addition, many men don't want to commit. I see it in DC all the time.
I am in my 40s, single and live in DC and I can't find anyone. I am too old now. Men have it so easy. Get a decent job and you will find a nice woman. Not so for women. We have to be smart, witty, charming, hot, thin and the list goes on and on. I am so sick of men complaining about how they can't find women. I see trolls all the time with women.
I also feel that we need to stop judging women based on who they marry or don't marry. If we want things to be equal between men and women then society should not judge a woman if her husband doesn't have a degree or wants to be a stay at home dad. Our laws and societal attitudes are catching up to reality and I feel that is hurting many people.
I have been following this thread since this happens to be my reality. I went to a college where the ratio of females to males was 5 to 1. Imagine those odds. Then I went to a city DC that has many more single women than men. Story of my life Even my profession is dominated by women.
Studies have shown that when women outnumber men, the hookup culture is rampant. One of the reasons is because if a woman doesn't give the man what he wants then he will easily find someone else that will. My college was like that. People didn't date they just hooked up and that was in the early 1990s.
The rise of single mothers is probably also due to the fact that there just are not enough men. A woman can either remain childless forever or take it upon herself to have a baby. In addition, many men don't want to commit. I see it in DC all the time.
I am in my 40s, single and live in DC and I can't find anyone. I am too old now. Men have it so easy. Get a decent job and you will find a nice woman. Not so for women. We have to be smart, witty, charming, hot, thin and the list goes on and on. I am so sick of men complaining about how they can't find women. I see trolls all the time with women.
I also feel that we need to stop judging women based on who they marry or don't marry. If we want things to be equal between men and women then society should not judge a woman if her husband doesn't have a degree or wants to be a stay at home dad. Our laws and societal attitudes are catching up to reality and I feel that is hurting many people.
I hear your pain, Muffy. I've heard generally similar complaints from other women. The whiner dudes who complain about women having it so easy because they're constantly approached by guys should take note of this post.
I have just one correction to mention--unplanned pregnancies, teen pregnancies, and pregnancies of single women without a partner have declined to an all-time low in the last 20 years, or so. I just read that this week.
If what you say about DC is true, I don't know why so many men say the dating in DC is no good. I'm having Deja Vu as I type this. I think a very similar convo went down on this forum a few weeks ago.
Maybe the tech industry should open a center in Maryland or Virginia outside of DC to even out the gender balance.
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I am in my 40s, single and live in DC and I can't find anyone. I am too old now. Men have it so easy. Get a decent job and you will find a nice woman.
lol...if I find myself making 100k (the median income here in Silicon Valley and the entry level salary for a programmer at Google) in the future and women who previously had no interest suddenly become interested, they will be met with great suspicion. I want meaningful sex, not a prostitute.
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I am so sick of men complaining about how they can't find women. I see trolls all the time with women.
I'm not one of the whiners and I'm against PUA/red pill...but my problem isn't finding women. I have found several people for whom I felt romantic feelings (and many hundreds of thousands for whom I felt sexual feelings, but I'm looking for something meaningful). My problem is that they don't find me; they don't reciprocate my feelings.
Yeah I'm 38, I'm too old also but perhaps in a different way. I wanted children and marriage when I was younger but I consider myself too old to start raising children at this point, and therefore I'm not interested in marriage anymore either. I just want a close friendship that evolves into friends with benefits, and then evolves into a long term relationship.
I have been following this thread since this happens to be my reality. I went to a college where the ratio of females to males was 5 to 1. Imagine those odds. Then I went to a city DC that has many more single women than men. Story of my life Even my profession is dominated by women.
Studies have shown that when women outnumber men, the hookup culture is rampant. One of the reasons is because if a woman doesn't give the man what he wants then he will easily find someone else that will. My college was like that. People didn't date they just hooked up and that was in the early 1990s.
The rise of single mothers is probably also due to the fact that there just are not enough men. A woman can either remain childless forever or take it upon herself to have a baby. In addition, many men don't want to commit. I see it in DC all the time.
I am in my 40s, single and live in DC and I can't find anyone. I am too old now. Men have it so easy. Get a decent job and you will find a nice woman. Not so for women. We have to be smart, witty, charming, hot, thin and the list goes on and on. I am so sick of men complaining about how they can't find women. I see trolls all the time with women.
D.C. is full of single men.
More so than many other cities I've been to.
Your problem is that you are looking for a man that is ready to settle down.
One that is in your age group.
That will be difficult.
But not impossible.
Ladies......stop saying there is a shortage of men.
There are plenty of men to go around.
You may have to lower your standards a bit. YEAH, I SAID IT. LOWER THEM A BIT.
You may have to move to a different city and go to places where men hang out.
You may have to do a few things differently to make yourself get noticed a bit more.
Nobody has anything easy these days.
If you are a woman looking for a man.
Get out of the house....throw on a smile and learn to say hello when you see someone you like.
You have to make an effort to be seen.
Hiding at home, complaining about how men have it so easy and how hard it is to find a man in your 40's isn't going to get you anywhere.
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