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- Yeah, that's what I mean, Cubic Zirconia. Can you tell those from Diamonds with the nakid eye? Are we allowed to say nekid around here
You can't necessarily tell, but you (general you) want to be up-front about it or you'll have some explaining to do if she gets is appraised for insurance purposes.
Ask yourself, how much are you willing to spend to prove your love?
The feedback should come from women on here and ladies be honest, what would you think of a man who gives you a $1000 versus a $10000 right.
Bragging rights with friends aside.
The comment of yours that I responded to had to do with just getting her a ring, and spending the rest of the money on a "terrific honeymoon".
It had to do not with a specific dollar amount, but rather what one would prefer to spend the money on.
If the budget was say, $5000, for ring and honeymoon, I would be far happier with the bulk of it being spent on a ring. Some others may say vacation. It just boils down to personal preference. There is nothing here about "spending to prove your love".
I had a Camaro when I got married, and it was totaled when our oldest child was a month old. (Not my fault.) Since then I have driven boring sedans, SUVs, and finally minivans in my trek through parenthood. No fun cars when there are three kids and groceries to lug around. Now that the kids are bigger, my husband talks about buying me a Camaro again. I never asked for it, he would pay for it and probably rarely drive it, and it would cost a heck of a lot more than a ring. (Depreciate a lot more, too.) Somehow I doubt any guy would make a peep over that. Wear a fraction of the cost on your finger, OHNOES.
The comment of yours that I responded to had to do with just getting her a ring, and spending the rest of the money on a "terrific honeymoon".
It had to do not with a specific dollar amount, but rather what one would prefer to spend the money on.
If the budget was say, $5000, for ring and honeymoon, I would be far happier with the bulk of it being spent on a ring. Some others may say vacation. It just boils down to personal preference. There is nothing here about "spending to prove your love".
Somehow I doubt any guy would make a peep over that. Wear a fraction of the cost on your finger, OHNOES.
However, you two have been married a while and "survived" the whole raising a child time in your lives. You two were also financially aware enough that children cost a lot of money and thus made good practical choices in life. You've probably also settled down a bit.. probably bought a home. Hopefully with all of this time, you are also more financially secure. In other words, you prioritized....
Yeh.. I wouldn't see buying a fun car at this time in your lives as a problem. Buying a fun car at the beginning of your marriage, I still think it would be a naive decision... no different from buying an expensive ring.
You also don't expect your husband to buy you a Camaro a contingency on marriage.... a bit different from expecting an engagement ring for a marriage to happen.
PS> I just bought a car for my wife... a Minivan. Ugh. Having 3 young kids myself... I say you deserve a fun car!
I hate the idea of expensive rings like this but it's not a huge social statement thing, I don't care what other people do. I actually just responded to a thread on another site about how women really feel about diamonds. I almost hate them. Because I want a partner who is interested in me, all my quirks and likes and dislikes and that, as I most definitely will be about him. I could write a short bio including food preferences, favorite colors, and a bunch of other likes and dislikes for pretty much all of the people who matter to me (and it's quite a number of people) and I'm an excellent gift giver, because I pay attention.
So to me, it's like him saying, "I don't really care who you actually are, and don't want to bother thinking about your tastes and interests, that's way too much work...you're a chick, right? Chicks like the shiny, yeah? Here. have a shiny. Now get on with the showering me with affection and gratitude already."
Diamonds are pretty much the pinnacle of that category of thing, and most diamond jewelry is very much not my style. Also it sets a weird tone of, "I spent money on you, so you OWE me."
If I had a man in my life, and we were talking marriage, what would really win me over would be if he spent a modest amount of money on a nice little secluded getaway with frugal but thoughtful gestures here and there. Hundreds maybe, not thousands, and definitely not more than he (and/or I) could afford. Celebrate our love, but don't go crazy, and points for either knowing what I like or surprising me with something really unusual.
As for a ring? An antique with a story, a really odd artisan piece, a plain silver band (I don't care for gold, either)...and I would rather have a loved one's time than his money.
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