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Ok all you married couples - the consensus is in: You must never change anything physically about yourself because your partner only loves the body you were in when you got married! No hair cutting! No hair dying! No teeth fixing or whitening! No weight gain or loss! No new scars! No new wrinkles! No sagging anything! Better not need glasses! Change is bad! Change is scary! You must physically remain the same until you die!
Pathetic.
Based on the ideas of some, everyone should accept and be tolerant of everyone and everything. The OP's husband should accept the OP's change in weight, and love her unconditionally, but what do a lot of the responses say? That she should lose weight and look good for her husband. But wait, isn't he supposed to accept her no matter what? No that's not reality, and this is wholly apparent in this thread.
The idea of acceptance and tolerance above all else is does not apply to most people.
But she didn't let herself go, she got healthier. Geezus christos on a craka!!!
I'm not on anyone's side here, I'm just saying.
Even if she got "healthier" if the other half still is stuck in the mindset she hasn't taken care of herself...it's not going to matter much.
Everyone loves to quote "in sickness and health" but, they also neglect to mention vows about being the best you can be for your partner and making the effort to be that person.
It's meant to be all encompassing, not just the parts you choose to apply them to.
The bottom line is that people change as they age - their looks change, their attitudes change, their bodies change, their hair changes, their libido changes, their politics and religion may even change, and if someone is so caught up in something very, very specific and very hard to maintain as the body ages, that person is still the person with the issue.
When a man trades in his spouse for a younger, shinier model we don't blame the woman for getting old. The OP gained weight that made her happy with how she looks and is by far healthier than a skeletal 100 lbs, you're all blaming her because she doesn't meet her husbands exacting standards. It is, indeed, ridiculous.
And for the record, no man is going to tell me how my hair and body are supposed to look, and if he had that kind of attitude I certainly wouldn't marry him. I'm sure there are plenty of men on here who feel exactly the same way.
Looks good to me ^^^^^^ However, this is proof 150 pounds will look different on everyone. The girl on the bottom seems to be a little taller and has more of an athletic build and holds the weight better. Or you could say she holds it easier. The girl on top looks cute and cuddly as she is, with some meat on her, but probably needs to tone up some. If she gained even 10 more pounds it would probably do her in so she's already at her max.
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^^^^^^ However, this is proof 150 pounds will look different on everyone. The girl on the bottom seems to be a little taller and has more of an athletic build and holds the weight better. Or you could say she holds it easier. The girl on top looks cute and cuddly as she is, with some meat on her, but probably needs to tone up some. If she gained even 10 more pounds it would probably do her in so she's already at her max.
