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also to who ever left the nasty msg on my feedback , No I have more than a son , I have two sons and a daughter and the no . 1 son is the only one who seems to have a problem trying to get upset over me not having the finances to visit and I just want to say thanks for leaving a nasty snarky msg . I hope God is kinder to you than you were to me ...
Wasn't the OP looking to buy a new home not too long ago? How tight can $$ be?
Plenty of people in the OP's age group are buying houses. Smaller houses. She already said they have gone from two salaries down to one. No financial justification is needed.
Is there somewhere in the middle to meet for an afternoon? 3 hours each way is doable if there isn't another way to financially make it work. Meet for a picnic in the park. No hotels, no restaurants, 1/2 the fuel costs (splitting between two families). Bring the dogs or leave the home for the day. It would be a long day for all but it's a way to see each other.
Is there somewhere in the middle to meet for an afternoon? 3 hours each way is doable if there isn't another way to financially make it work. Meet for a picnic in the park. No hotels, no restaurants, 1/2 the fuel costs (splitting between two families). Bring the dogs or leave the home for the day. It would be a long day for all but it's a way to see each other.
I think it might depend on the ages of the kids, a six hour round trip with two little ones for a few hours in a park would be a last resort for me.
I do want to add then when I have grandkids (in the next few yrs?) I fully expect to be the one to travel to see them because I remember all to well how difficult it was to find the time to visit all the relatives, do the school things, sport/summer camp type things and take our own occasional family trips and trying to fit it all in around work and school schedules.
I think it might depend on the ages of the kids, a six hour round trip with two little ones for a few hours in a park would be a last resort for me.
I do want to add then when I have grandkids (in the next few yrs?) I fully expect to be the one to travel to see them because I remember all to well how difficult it was to find the time to visit all the relatives, do the school things, sport/summer camp type things and take our own occasional family trips and trying to fit it all in around work and school schedules.
Of course, three hours each way, for a few hours of fun might seem daunting & a last resort to a parent. But, if your children have not seen their grandparents for two years I think that many parents would do it.
I think it might depend on the ages of the kids, a six hour round trip with two little ones for a few hours in a park would be a last resort for me.
I do want to add then when I have grandkids (in the next few yrs?) I fully expect to be the one to travel to see them because I remember all to well how difficult it was to find the time to visit all the relatives, do the school things, sport/summer camp type things and take our own occasional family trips and trying to fit it all in around work and school schedules.
I guess it all depends. My daughter, SIL and grandson live about 6 hours from us. They make the drive with a 1 year old and 2 dogs about every other month. And we drive there the alternating months. They live in a fairly remote area and it's at least a 2 hour drive just to go to Target instead of Walmart.
When my kids were little we drove 13 hours each way, twice a year to visit my husband's elderly parents. My younger parents were in a better position to make the effort to visit us or help us financially to visit them. You get creative if seeing family is important.
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