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I have to laugh...... It is hard for me to believe any guy would think this. Maybe you are from a small town?
You just need to get beyond your small circle of friends and get more of a social life. 30 is very very young.
Join a club/team/alumni group/sports team/gym/volunteer organization. Go to the cafes/grocery stores/cooking classes/libraries/restaurants/concerts that you like. Smile. Say hello to people. Look confident and approachable. Don't always have your head buried in a book... or your iPhone... or zoning with your iPod.
I know so many guys that get married/divorced/snatched up remarried at any age. One advantage guys have over women.... You can get married at anytime, and have a family.
I was just wondering what anyone's opinon would be of a male that is almost 30 years old who is not married and single. Is it still possible to find someone and get married at this age. I almost feel like I missed my chances in my 20's. Where did the time go? Thing is I'm not very aggressive in trying to find a partner. I would like to find someone, but feel like a lot of time has passed and most people in my age range from say 25-30 are married or very close to it. It's almost like there are no young girls that are single anymore. It's tough to find someone that fits my criteria and is still single.
Should I feel bad about this at this point in my life?
If gets me down a great deal of the time. I always find people asking me if I am married and/or have kids. And they seemed shocked that I am not/give me a hard time about it. Makes me feel like sh@it.
I def did not follow the cookie cutter lifestyle as most do. I'm pretty independent I guess you could say.
Just wondering if there is hope. I'm a normal guy and find that people seem to think of me as attractive, but I just don't know.
Is that part of life over for someone in this situation? I mean no more dating..and just living life solo until death?
Very, very discouraged with the situation.
Thanks for your opinions.
Seriously? You think 30 is too old to find someone? If everyone is married in your area by 30 than you need to move to an area outside of Appalachia. People marry and remarry at 30,40,50 and above. Not only is there hope for you but you are relatively young.
I was married for 18 years, widowed at 40, decided to start dating at 42.
There was no one in my day-to-day life to date, never met anyone at a bar I was interested. So I did online dating. I understand that venue seems to be easier for women than men.
You do come across as some what depressed (and a nice guy) - are you?
Depressed? Honestly yes and probably a lot more than depressed about it. I feel pretty outcasted in the world today b/c of it.
Nice guy? Sure. I can be mean too, if that is what women want, but yes mostly a nice guy.
Everyone is married or in a LTR around my age...everyone. Fat, skinny, attractive, ugly, every race, everybody is....but I struggle so bad with it.
I'm unmarried and in the age range you specified and I have lots of acquaintances in the same situation, so I wouldn't agree with you that EVERYONE is married or in a LTR. Yes, it can be harder to meet singles as you get older though. I usually meet guys via online dating.
I have to laugh...... It is hard for me to believe any guy would think this. Maybe you are from a small town?
You just need to get beyond your small circle of friends and get more of a social life. 30 is very very young.
Join a club/team/alumni group/sports team/gym/volunteer organization. Go to the cafes/grocery stores/cooking classes/libraries/restaurants/concerts that you like. Smile. Say hello to people. Look confident and approachable. Don't always have your head buried in a book... or your iPhone... or zoning with your iPod.
I know so many guys that get married/divorced/snatched up remarried at any age. One advantage guys have over women.... You can get married at anytime, and have a family.
I understand. Probably a big reason is that I am not involved in anything. My only thinking is that the bar scene is where meeting someone happens. Beyond that I haven't a clue. Ask out random women who you don't even know? Get involved, yes, but work plays a role in not being involved in things.
Here's the truth, learn it well or suffer the consequences...
In life, attitude is everything.
And we generate the results in life we think we deserve.
When you really believe you deserve something and quit being your own biggest obstacle to obtaining it, you will find what you want if you are willing to work at it.
DO NOT be like the bitter men who post here all the time - they are are their own worst enemies but refuse to believe that.
They would rather blame other people and circumstances for why they don't have what they want. And because they won't take personal responsibility for their own happiness they will remain bitter and alone becoming a self-fulfilling prophecy
You need to work hard to overcome any tendency to be negative on this. Sure it's normal to get discouraged, but you cannot live there okay? 30 is still very young!
My 45 year old male cousin just married the love of his life. We all thought he'd be a confirmed bachelor forever, but 2 years ago he met the most amazing woman. She is 38 and has never been married either. So see, it does happen
PLEASE reread this post above.
The more you post, the more obvious it is how much you need this info.
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