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For everyone keeping a hawks eye view on all my posts - this happened around two months ago. I just have the night off tonight, am drinking a beer, and sort of am feeling a bit ashamed...wandering if it's appropriate or not..
Anyway, there were two men involved in this -
A. The guy she slept with (a crush from high school).
B. Her internet friend from the state we moved away from.
So - while she was out cheating on me with the other man - was it completely wrong of me to update her facebook status to something like "Currently cheating on my husband.."
- and then when I found out internet friend knew of (and encouraged) her to do it - was it wrong for me to (I don't even think you can do it) tell him I was going to name him in the divorce papers (for emotional affair, sending her sexual material, etc)..?
I also wrote on the other mans facebook about cheating with another guys wife, how if those were his standards he may as well have her...
She ended up deleting her facebook account when she returned (after about 20 friends commented on it..), and internet friend refuses to talk to her, tells me he's "sorry" and regrets what he's done...
Should I feel ashamed of my behavior?
I have no desire to "fight" this guy, as that's idiotic, proves nothing, and unlike him - I actually have licenses and a career on the line, to which an assault charge would completely interfere with..
you strike me as a very mild mannered guy , i consider you reaction and actions to have been incredibly tame
if it was me , id feel guilty for not having kicked up more of a fuss
No, bud. You started this thread, remember? You are baiting people while you should instead seek profesional help.
Yeah...the way it works is people start threads, and others reply, then the person who started the thread replies back...that's the concept of a message board...
We did around three months of marriage counseling, and agreed it didn't work.
We've only been with each other, and it was our first real relationship..not really surprised its ending...almost a decade together and helping each other get an education and start careers is pretty darn good for the first relationship, in my book.
Now we will go our separate ways and move on...
There's nothing to seek counseling for...please don't be one of those posters who didn't read that this incident was months old, and resolved.
Actually, they're going to a hotel room tonight (after she gets off work)...
I'm about to run to the store and get some groceries, then looking forward to cooking myself something, drinkin, and finishing my book..
I guess I'm still grieving? I kind of feel...not sad, not upset, not happy....maybe it's just hunger, I don't know.
Maybe alone.
Edit -
The alone feeling is mostly gone..it comes on strong, but leaves quickly........anyway, that's generally how it is with me.....
Generally how it is for most people, believe it or not. The US has been in the forefront of coming up with new diagnoses year after year to explain, in many cases, minor social disorders and all to the benefit of the pharmaceutical companies who churn out drug after drug after drug at enormous profit to treat (for instance) stress, insomnia, and ADD and all it's accompanying subcategories. Then we come to autism and the more recently documented "Asperger's Syndrome" as its subsidiary link. It never ends and the populace becomes not only dependent upon mind altering drugs but uses a diagnosis as an excuse for simple bad behavior and much more.
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Originally Posted by TheEarthBeneathMe
Yeah...the way it works is people start threads, and others reply, then the person who started the thread replies back...that's the concept of a message board...
We did around three months of marriage counseling, and agreed it didn't work.
We've only been with each other, and it was our first real relationship..not really surprised its ending...almost a decade together and helping each other get an education and start careers is pretty darn good for the first relationship, in my book.
Now we will go our separate ways and move on...
There's nothing to seek counseling for...please don't be one of those posters who didn't read that this incident was months old, and resolved.
I just wanted opinions and to give an update...
Yes, there is something to seek counseling for - you. You started this post because you wanted affirmation that doing what you did was OK. No, it wasn't. It was infantile. Nothing has been resolved and won't be until you get some counseling which registers.
It's been said many times over on many different threads in many different forums, and is something which I can personally attest to, that it sometimes takes many efforts to find the right counselor who can put you on the right path. Your assumption that it's over is, in my opinion, very short-sighted. Unless you continue on with professional counseling you're doomed to make the same mistakes over and over again and that would be a real waste of a life. Good luck.
In my opinion, this may be the best time to acquire new girl friends who are willing to fornicate you, even if you keep clamoring for a relationship with your wife. It could be good practice for them.
In my opinion, this may be the best time to acquire new girl friends who are willing to fornicate you, even if you keep clamoring for a relationship with your wife. It could be good practice for them.
Hate to tell you but neither humans or animals "fornicate" each other but fornicate with each other. And who might the fornicating benefit (as in "a good practice") - the fornicator or the fornicatee?
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