What can I do to stop gay men from hitting me on all the time? (sex, attractive)

[Inebriated Duck]

Originally Posted by mysticaltyger

It's funny how some straight men freak out about stuff they've been doing to women from the time of Adam. Time to notice the double standard.

This.

[Trimac20]

Originally Posted by SKP440

Protest too much and be called a homophobe. Strike out and hit the guy and you get locked up for a hate crime. It's ok that you are offended and even angry, but since its a crime to be a proud straight man in the United States you have to just deal with the abuse (once they see your uncomfortable with it they do it more, and letting them get away with it is called tolerance), so the only advice one can legally give is walk away.

I don't get guys who get so pissed off at just being hit on. That doesn't mean sexual harassment of course.

To the OP. Maybe you're afraid to admit you like the attention?

[Dayton Sux]

Or maybe its something on the way I dress that's giving off a false vibe to those people?

Must be. Or you are cute. For some reason you are causing the gaydar to ping.

What can you do to stop it? Gosh I dont know. Probably not much or maybe you could try a different look.

Are you getting hit on by girls, too?

[Dayton Sux]

Why not just say 'no thanks, I'm straight' and leave it at that?

Yeah, that's what I was thinking. The thread parent should be flattered if he's attractive to guys (and presumably girls).

[fleetiebelle]

Originally Posted by Dayton Sux

Yeah, that's what I was thinking. The thread parent should be flattered if he's attractive to guys (and presumably girls).

Right. You can't stop people from looking at you in public unless you decide to wear a burka, and you can't control if other people find you attractive. As long as they're not being inappropriate (which isn't the same as you not appreciating their appreciation) just ignore them or politely decline.

[chielgirl]

Perhaps you should delete your "Grinder" app.
That should help.

[14Bricks]

Originally Posted by Dayton Sux

Yeah, that's what I was thinking. The thread parent should be flattered if he's attractive to guys (and presumably girls).

Why the hell would a straight guy be flattered by gay dudes hitting on him?

[nearnorth]

Originally Posted by nycruben87

Hi there, I'm a 26 year old Latino guy from New York City and I'm constantly getting hit on by gay men

Multiply that by about 10 (since there are way more straight men than gay men) and you know what young attractive women feel like.

[TabulaRasa]

Being considered attractive is generally a good thing.

[nearnorth]

Originally Posted by 14Bricks

Why the hell would a straight guy be flattered by gay dudes hitting on him?

Uh, because it means he's attractive. Did you really have to ask that?