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if that doesn't work, then fine you're in the same boat
men default to approaching so if that doesn't work they're SOL(I've always wondered what that acronym stands for), women don't so if not approaching doesn't work they could always approach a guy
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Originally Posted by Ruth4Truth
You didn't read my post. I said if the men don't react when women approach them, the women are out of luck. You're assuming women don't approach, but you're wrong.
I think the trap some men fall into is trying to be the guy women say they want as opposed to looking at the men she actually ends up with.
For all the complaining they do about the typical man -- "oh he's not romantic enough," "oh he never texts me," "oh all he wants to do is stay home and watch tv, never take me anywhere interesting," blah blah blah -- that guy always gets laid.
What women say they want and what they actually end up with are often different things.
I think the trap some men fall into is trying to be the guy women say they want as opposed to looking at the men she actually ends up with.
For all the complaining they do about the typical man -- "oh he's not romantic enough," "oh he never texts me," "oh all he wants to do is stay home and watch tv, never take me anywhere interesting," blah blah blah -- that guy always gets laid.
What women say they want and what they actually end up with are often different things.
I think the trap some men fall into is trying to be the guy women say they want as opposed to looking at the men she actually ends up with.
For all the complaining they do about the typical man -- "oh he's not romantic enough," "oh he never texts me," "oh all he wants to do is stay home and watch tv, never take me anywhere interesting," blah blah blah -- that guy always gets laid.
What women say they want and what they actually end up with are often different things.
I think maybe you are half right. At least for myself - I was unhappy in my relationship with my ex-fiance because I felt like he didn't show me he loved me enough. I wanted more spontaneous phone calls when we were long distance - not just calling at our designated time. I wanted little shows of affection - a card, a flower, a post it note with something sweet on it. Well, I realize now that it wasn't that I wanted all that extra stuff - I wanted more of the concrete stuff. I wanted someone who needed me like I needed them. I wanted someone who made me feel loved - and not by giving me a flower or a card. My husband isn't romantic. My husband doesn't often leave me little gifts of love. But my husband loves me and I know it and feel it every second of the day. I don't need flowers or cards when I know I have his love.
To be honest - it's not just about selfish men. Sometimes it just takes awhile to figure out how to orgasm with someone new. Sometimes it happens right away - and sometimes it doesn't. It's not always the guy's fault. So - it's not really about - would you still pursue sex with anyone when you could wind up with a selfish partner. It's about - would you still pursue sex with anyone when you know there is a large chance that you will not orgasm. If pursuing sex is all about getting off - would you still pursue it as vehemently if there was a big change that you wouldn't be getting off?
I have to be really into a person to pursue sex with them (the downside of this is that i have emotional baggage from a desolate early childhood, to the point that I'm more into the emotional component than the sex component), so I'm happy if they have an orgasm and it's okay if I don't, and I try harder to ensure that they do.
I think the trap some men fall into is trying to be the guy women say they want as opposed to looking at the men she actually ends up with.
For all the complaining they do about the typical man -- "oh he's not romantic enough," "oh he never texts me," "oh all he wants to do is stay home and watch tv, never take me anywhere interesting," blah blah blah -- that guy always gets laid.
What women say they want and what they actually end up with are often different things.
which is why men shouldnt be anything but themselves and be confident in who they are which is really what women are attracted to and not someone that has to act like someone else to appease them.
If girls are complaining that guys arent relationship minded then they probably arent either meeting the right guys or meeting them in the wrong venues.
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