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People are just flaky. I'm still somewhat annoyed about the 40-something divorced dad who set up dates and canceled on me twice just hours before and then texted me saying that he didn't want to even bother trying to reschedule again because he's just too busy. lol
The only time I deal with flakiness is when I have NO EXPECTATIONS of it going anywhere. At that point, I expect them to cancel, and it doesn't bother me. I'm dealing with someone like that now.
In the end, people flake because they like the attention of that person, but I don't think they really like the person much at all. Or they like the person, but are unwilling to free up any time in their schedule.
People are just flaky. I'm still somewhat annoyed about the 40-something divorced dad who set up dates and canceled on me twice just hours before and then texted me saying that he didn't want to even bother trying to reschedule again because he's just too busy. lol
To his credit, at least he did tell me instead of just standing me up. I just thought it was weird for him to suggest a time and place and then a few hours later tell me he was going to do something else instead.
The timing wasn't that great anyway. I'd been taking a break from the site when I got a message from someone and then found this guy's message in my filtered messages. I'm always on the go because it's either that or sit around the house and twiddle my thumbs (I actually have to schedule down time nights). But the reality is I have 4 commitments a month and a partner could join me for three of those if they wanted to. I have plenty of disposable time for someone if I choose to make it.
However, I'm going on vacation next month and will be out of the country for three weeks. In order to get that much time off, conditions had to be agreed to so for the first part of September, I will be chained to my desk. And then there's interviewing prospective tenants, making sure my dogs are squared away before I go, and just all the general things that need to be done before vacation. Part of the reason I was taking a break from the site was I didn't want to potentially start something right before leaving.
[quote=NWGirl74;36167211]To his credit, at least he did tell me instead of just standing me up. I just thought it was weird for him to suggest a time and place and then a few hours later tell me he was going to do something else instead.
^ I can almost guarantee what happened here was that he arranged another date with someone he was more interested in. He probably could not schedule both at separate times.
I expect that behavior from 23 year old girls, but I'm simply astonished when ~40 year old people do it. No wonder they're divorced.
To his credit, at least he did tell me instead of just standing me up. I just thought it was weird for him to suggest a time and place and then a few hours later tell me he was going to do something else instead.
^ I can almost guarantee what happened here was that he arranged another date with someone he was more interested in. He probably could not schedule both at separate times.
That's fine. We're only a 69% match and I'm really not disappointed in this turn of events. While there were no real deal breakers, there are definitely a bunch of "yellow" flags.
I experimented with online dating sites a few years back and found I got ten times more responses from women if I changed my occupation to "doctor" even using the same exact photo and description. I gave up after that experiment and decided that if occupation (income) was the biggest factor in getting a date I simply was looking in all the wrong places.
For the record, I always responded but consider some dating sites require a paid membership to respond to messages.
I experimented with online dating sites a few years back and found I got ten times more responses from women if I changed my occupation to "doctor" even using the same exact photo and description. I gave up after that experiment and decided that if occupation (income) was the biggest factor in getting a date I simply was looking in all the wrong places.
Occupation isn't the biggest factor, but obviously a doctor is going to be more impressive to a lot of women than a non-doctor with the exact same photo and description.
Occupation isn't the biggest factor, but obviously a doctor is going to be more impressive to a lot of women than a non-doctor with the exact same photo and description.
Occupation matters to me. My last serious SO was in law enforcement. I am skittish of LEOs. Of the last six guys who wrote to me, four were cops, from three different departments.
Of those four, three have the same first name as my ex.
Occupation matters to me. My last serious SO was in law enforcement. I am skittish of LEOs. Of the last six guys who wrote to me, four were cops, from three different departments.
Of those four, three have the same first name as my ex.
I give up.
LOL, that is unfortunate. Occupation matters to me somewhat, but it's just not the most important thing. But I have noticed on Tinder that some guys will just write "medical doctor" or something as their description (and then I do swipe right unless they're hideous, lol), but every alleged doctor/resident/med student I've talked to were always just looking for something casual since they're so "busy", so I didn't meet up with any of them anyways.
Occupation matters to me. My last serious SO was in law enforcement. I am skittish of LEOs. Of the last six guys who wrote to me, four were cops, from three different departments.
Of those four, three have the same first name as my ex.
I give up.
I dated a lawyer with the same name as my ex-husband, and my ex-husband remarried a woman with my first name. My current BF's ex-wife also had my first name, as well as one of his ex-girlfriends. Sure a name shouldn't matter so much.
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Occupation matters to me. My last serious SO was in law enforcement. I am skittish of LEOs. Of the last six guys who wrote to me, four were cops, from three different departments.
Of those four, three have the same first name as my ex.
I give up.
The solution is simple. Write the men you want to write and don't be a passive user. Most of the women I went out with on OLD were women that wrote me first.
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Here's my complaint, Officer.
