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^yeah, I'm an introvert and am used to being a loner. (which may be one reason relationships are difficult). I guess I'm glad that I like my own company, haha, and independence. It seems the people who are more the relationship type, tend to be needier, and I guess that's why they don't like being single, because they "need", or at least want someone.
I agree with this, from my view point the people who are always in relationships are more adaptive to each other, for those of us who don't mind being alone and aren't always in a social mood. we are harder to pair up with, as we are used to enjoying our own company, and don't need someone necessarily to be complete.
Same. I enjoy socialising at times but I can find it exhausting and after a day in work (where like yourself I get alone time when I can) I just want to go home and relax on my own.
When i've been in relationships I feel really trapped which is part-commitment phobia but also because I need that solitude and I can find it exhausting. I still desire intimacy though and shared experiences and emotions with someone I care about. It's really tough though for us introverts. For starters it's a lot harder for us to attract a mate in the first place than it is for the extroverted jock.
When in a relationship the girl struggles to understand why I don't want to be with her all the time, or enough of the time. I'd rather go without than get that trapped feeling, plus there's a lot of negative emotions that go with relationships as well once you catch feelings.
It's hard for us to get what we're looking for and what we need, so we tend to be single indefinitely.
I agree with all of that!, I haven't been with a girl long enough to really say i felt trapped, but the girl i was dating previously liked to text all day, and sometimes it did get annoying, I didn't need to be in constant contact with her all day. the being together all the time thing was a problem also, I liked her a lot but I also let her know sometimes I just want to be alone (which led to her believing i didn't want her at all). it is a struggle.
me too. that's probably why I didn't really date much until a few years ago, when I didn't have work or school or anything. I would rather have a personal life, then work and be too exhausted or stressed out to have a life or relationship. but, of course most people don't want to date someone that doesn't do anything. :/
yep, unfortunately. :/
Don't look at that as a negative, you are who you are.
It's the type of couple I've seen everybody and their brother turn into. was my reaction.
Exactly. Not only do all relationships turn boring sooner or later, I can safely say that my SO will require me to be joined at the hip with her 24/7/365. is what I got to say about it.
Its hard for some people to understand the word "Space Apart"......
Due to your narrow dating pool it would be wise to use any and all tools for maximizing your search. Dating sites allow you to screen and filter your criteria and preferences. This is especially key for individuals with specific criteria that could limit their dating pool. You'll know from the get-go if a woman has or wants children. You'll be able to assess and screen for other criteria as well.
Do dating sites favor women? Absolutely. The same is true for virtually every other social venue that attracts single and available individuals. This is something you need to know going in. Also, at your age you may have a more difficult time finding suitable matches. While I have friends who were decidedly CFBC in their 20s and early 30s, the majority are married or cohabiting. The kind of women that meet your criteria may be difficult to find in the absolute vast majority of cases. You'd have a better chance in metro/large cities in the PNW and NE. Anywhere else you'll face more challenges due to the cultural and social differences and expectations of these regions.
Thanks for the tips, it does make sense to give online a try!. and luckily I do live in New England. she will be very difficult to find.
I agree with all of that!, I haven't been with a girl long enough to really say i felt trapped, but the girl i was dating previously liked to text all day, and sometimes it did get annoying, I didn't need to be in constant contact with her all day. the being together all the time thing was a problem also, I liked her a lot but I also let her know sometimes I just want to be alone (which led to her believing i didn't want her at all). it is a struggle.
yes, that's how most people tend to be, they want to text throughout the day, like on their breaks and stuff - it can get annoying, just sending "lol's" and stuff, because of course being an introvert, we tend to prefer more substance, and quality over quantity. I got used to it though. and then the last guy could text for at least an hour every day - I liked talking to him, but it was exhausting. it's hard to find a good balance.
I would suggest the best way to find that is as another poster suggested On Line Dating. I live in CT as well, and when I did OLD, I seen many women, especially the ones that didn't have children, looking for the very thing you are looking for, and complaining about the only guys who wanted them were guys who wanted to get married and have children. Really don't know how many women you are going to find like that any other way, especially if you are an introvert
Good points, Online does seem the best way to go in terms of pre-screeing. I am a introvert but I can talk to people very easily and get along with everyone, that's not the problem its just that meeting in person, especially with what I am looking for is going to take a looooooooooong time.
yes, that's how most people tend to be, they want to text throughout the day, like on their breaks and stuff - it can get annoying, just sending "lol's" and stuff, because of course being an introvert, we tend to prefer more substance, and quality over quantity. I got used to it though. and then the last guy could text for at least an hour every day - I liked talking to him, but it was exhausting. it's hard to find a good balance.
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was my reaction.
is what I got to say about it.
. she will be very difficult to find.
