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I agree, that is common now a days and it is not a relationship I would want for myself either, space apart is good.
Me neither. I spend more time with my Meetup groups now, since my friends no longer go out anywhere. Seeing non-codependent, non-homebody couples in the groups provides some comfort. But the social dynamics in Meetup aren't the same as among "organic" friends. Perhaps joining a Meetup group or two might benefit you as well.
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Not a huge fan of country music in general (i can listen to any other genre though) why do you ask?.
It might be a reference to another poster with a conundrum similar to yours. That man mentioned bluegrass music as one of his hobbies. Only he talked about his fear of never finding a relationship, rather than finding an over-committed relationship.
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Me neither. I spend more time with my Meetup groups now, since my friends no longer go out anywhere. Seeing non-codependent, non-homebody couples in the groups provides some comfort. But the social dynamics in Meetup aren't the same as among "organic" friends. Perhaps joining a Meetup group or two might benefit you as well.
It might be a reference to another poster with a conundrum similar to yours. That man mentioned bluegrass music as one of his hobbies. Only he talked about his fear of never finding a relationship, rather than finding an over-committed relationship.
Never thought about a meetup group, I am open to the idea, thanks for the suggestion.
I normally go for girls who are younger than me (last girl i dated was 24 going on 25 while i was 29 going on 30) you are correct that younger girls are thinking that far ahead and you could date them for a bit before her biological clocks starts ticking and you both know at that point its time to split. nothing wrong with being friends.
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You are right it is a big gamble. and i expect a younger girl to change her mind, which is fine, we would establish that when that time comes she is free to end the relationship.
You can look for whatever you want in a relationship but you don't get to make up your own definitions of words.
What you want is not a committed relationship. It may be monogamous but your intent going in is for it to last only as long as it's convenient to you. That's not a commitment.
[quote=emm74;47581715]You can look for whatever you want in a relationship but you don't get to make up your own definitions of words.
What you want is not a committed relationship. It may be monogamous but your intent going in is for it to last only as long as it's convenient to you. That's not a commitment.[/quote]
How so?, the girl would know I am committed to her, and if she feels the same about the three things (Marriage,Kids,Co-habitation) and we are together, how is that not a relationship, while not the conventional or traditional relationship, I would still call it a relationship in my eyes.
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You can look for whatever you want in a relationship but you don't get to make up your own definitions of words.
What you want is not a committed relationship. It may be monogamous but your intent going in is for it to last only as long as it's convenient to you. That's not a commitment.
You don't get to define what is a committed relationship for others either. If OP and his girl are on the same page, they have committed to each other to what they want and if one changes their mind they break the commitment, simple as that.
You don't get to define what is a committed relationship for others either. If OP and his girl are on the same page, they have committed to each other to what they want and if one changes their mind they break the commitment, simple as that.
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Very one-sided.....
What you want for as long as you want until you are tired of it
Then u leave for the next one
Isn't that kind of the contract all relationships run over in a way? "We are a couple until and/or unless you really p$&@ me off or I don't want you anymore." I don't think I'm wrong on that.
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