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I would gladly pay for my own lobster (if I happened to like lobster in the first place), but even then he might still try to pay, so I wouldn't even order it in the first place. After we were a couple, I might, just once in a while, order lobster. lol
you need to politely speak up. I like to get things out in the open straight away. if you don't like it ,you can move on.. I have a great life I dont need you.
It doesn't sound like you have a great life. It's sounding pretty self absorbed and bitter. Hopefully, he has a great life, and is self assured enough to seek something better. The things that matter in life dont cost anything at all but can fill your heart with love and happiness to last your lifetime.
When someone makes a single post and never returns, they lose all credibility with me. I'm questioning if the event even took place. There are men all over the internet trying to make a point about "Gold Diggers".
The only men that fall for that messaging are those that don't need to be convinced. Simply looking for validation. I wouldn't worry about them.
Any normal well adjusted man will know that not all women are gold diggers. Just like any normal well adjusted women will know that not all men are pickup artists.
Whether or not the OP's story is true, it is a scenario that is believable... I don't hear any underlying bias either. Certainly people think it is worth discussing.
Even if the poster may be questionable the topic is still valid.
If $50 item was one of the most expensive items on the menu, it is. Remember the OP had a $18 Halibut, so its not like the restaurant of choice was an expensive one.
$50 at some NYC restaurants could also be the cheapest item on some menus... then again I doubt they would have a plate for $18. Neither would I think the OP raise a concern.
It is all relative. Cost of the plate is relative.... in this context is really irrelevant. I've treated friends to places that run easily 80-100 a plate but I also know they aren't there to take advantage of me. On a first dinner date, in a modest restaurant that has much cheaper items, it sure looks like a hustle and certainly was a concern to the OP.
Steak is *usually* expensive though, and most steak restaurants typically have non-steak options that are cheaper. That’s not to say that the steak and lobster wouldn’t be at the higher end of the menu, because it probably would have been, but it likely would have been right in the range of the other steak items. There are expensive fish preparations too, such as a whole snapper or other fresh-caught market price fish, but the OP didn’t order them.
As a woman, if I was going on a first date I would NOT order steak & lobster. Just because it's on the menu doesn't mean it should be ordered on a first date. But then I'm 63 and probably more considerate about stuff like that than younger women.
Steak is *usually* expensive though, and most steak restaurants typically have non-steak options that are cheaper. That’s not to say that the steak and lobster wouldn’t be at the higher end of the menu, because it probably would have been, but it likely would have been right in the range of the other steak items. There are expensive fish preparations too, such as a whole snapper or other fresh-caught market price fish, but the OP didn’t order them.
Compared to some chicken dishes, which are usually the cheapest, $18 fish that the OP ordered BEFORE HER may have sounded relatively expensive so she felt okay about ordering steak and lobster, especially since there was likely no price (just "market price"). If she's young she may not have known that is code for "gonna be expensive".
Steak is *usually* expensive though, and most steak restaurants typically have non-steak options that are cheaper. That’s not to say that the steak and lobster wouldn’t be at the higher end of the menu, because it probably would have been, but it likely would have been right in the range of the other steak items. There are expensive fish preparations too, such as a whole snapper or other fresh-caught market price fish, but the OP didn’t order them.
Which is why I still believe it was a bit inconsiderate on a first date to order something that would be on the high end of the menu.
Me as well... I don't live far from the place that serves 48 ounce juicy steaks. I usually only go once or twice a year.... may need to make it a three visit year.
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