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Since you don't mountain bike maybe the hypothetical should be you biking at her level
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And if it's a two-person bike you can kino.
Readjust her thighs on the seat and so on.
Agreed. If one would like to mountain bike on a first date but "has never gotten into that", this could serve as a good lesson in humility, as well. It's just as important to find out if someone will laugh at you OR with you, especially if the end goal in this particular poster's dating is always "raw sexuality" and a continued sex life.... Yes women want that too, but sheesh you're not going to get someone who appears to be in heat at a coffee shop, or the zoo. Doesn't matter, at least give the impression you would like to get your know her as a person.
The 50 Dollar Lobster Lady didn't know OP well enough to know if he'd be offended. Some people have a lot of money and don't want to spend any if it, some people don't have much money and will spend a lot on dinner, 50 Dollar Lobster does not connote the same reaction universally. We all have different priorities, the goal is to find someone who matches.
Mountain biking would be amazing first date. First off, it's free.
It's only free if you already own a mountain bike and the means to transport the mountain bike. Otherwise you'd have to rent equipment, which is not free.
It's only free if you already own a mountain bike and the means to transport the mountain bike. Otherwise you'd have to rent equipment, which is not free.
Walking in the park is only free if you already own garments suitable to cover you up from violating the locality's decency laws.
... but I'm kinda feeling put off a bit too about it...
I paid for the bill. My concern isn't that I paid. I'm glad to do something nice for her.
My concern is I feel she wasn't considerate at all, and it is weighing on my mind. I'm sorting out my feelings right now. I find her attractive in many ways, but that was a big turn off :/
Dude? Did she put out? Sorry to be blunt, but I kind of get the feeling that if she did, you would not have posted this. A friend of mine recently got involved with someone and they had sex on the second date. As I was involved and married to someone for 25 years, the pace that relationships progress today is ASTOUNDING. But that's just me, old fashioned.
But, I'm also a realist. I know when I get back to the dating circuit (just ended my first post-divorce relationship) that that's the expectation - sex early on. Ok. I will say this, chemistry is either there or it's not. If on a first date there is no chemistry and let's all agree that chemistry is either there or it isn't and I don't feel the Zaa Zaa Zuu I wouldn't be so much of a b*&^h to order the steak and lobster combo.
But I wouldn't order the chicken either
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I don’t think that doing an activity date would be bad for a later date, but I think for a *first* date, a coffee/drink/dinner date is not a bad option. I am female and usually pay for myself on dates, but I absolutely get bored and think it’s a waste of money to be going out to dinner and a movie on date after date. I’d much rather go hiking/visit a state or local park, find a free festival, explore a part of town I haven’t seen, etc. I do love to try new restaurants, but I am just as happy to try a food truck as an expensive place.
Over time, more of my first dates have been drinks rather than an activity simply because very rarely has a strong enough activity date idea emerged from an initial conversation in a bar or a non-bar venue. If I'm not sure about an activity, then drinks at a bar is the way to go.
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It's only free if you already own a mountain bike and the means to transport the mountain bike. Otherwise you'd have to rent equipment, which is not free.
I would assume that the only way a mountain biking early stage date happens is if both people are already mountain bikers with the means to transport bikes.
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Yes...adversarial activities are really romantic...I guess you'd just be lobbing the ball back and forth rather than actively competing with her? However the odds that you both enjoy tennis are somewhat low - and likely not important enough to use it to rule out a relationship. Though few women want to get sweaty even on a "non-date"...I suppose some guys would use not wanting to get sweaty at a first meeting to assume sex would be out so yeah, good way to throw someone on the reject pile with no expense upfront.
Perhaps a walk in a park or downtown area...or going to an amusement park or public concert? You don't have to get coffee or drinks...how about smoothies or ice cream?
If I happen to play tennis at approximately the same level as my early stage date, then yes, we would play out a full match or set. Over time, the tennis date has not been a commonly used date because I haven't run into enough female players at a level we would both enjoy competing with each other and then maybe go somewhere else after.
In certain high-end restaurants, menu don't have the prices listed. Also, in those, usually only one person gets the menu with prices. The other gets a menu with no prices.
I remember one first date that consisted of a free concert and a picnic dinner in the park. I guess we had a good time...we've been together 25 yrs.
Sounds wonderful...but some spoilsports on here would still complain about having to purchase food for the picnic! ...but I'd say you made out very well considering 25 good years!
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, people own clothes and shoes. Many people do not own specialty athletic equipment.
Sorry to be blunt, but I kind of get the feeling that if she did, you would not have posted this. A friend of mine recently got involved with someone and they had sex on the second date. As I was involved and married to someone for 25 years, the pace that relationships progress today is ASTOUNDING. 
But that's just me, old fashioned. 