What's the absolute "deal-breaker" in a new relationship? (long-term, men)

[Chowhound]

Originally Posted by MonaLisaVito

Not having a pulse would be a start

You with your high expectations....

[Aylalou]

Mistreatment which should take care of it all. And I mean mistreatment of anyone or anything.

[Chowhound]

I not sure really about an absolute deal breaker, but if I met some girl and we hit it off and I found out she had huge, I mean huge credit card debt.

That probably bother me too much.

[oregonwana_b]

LOL, how cute Chowhound.....credit card debit....lol
And even then you are not sure it is a deal breaker...how sweet

[ILikeSmartHippies]

- Negativity, complaining, nagging
- Reads less than 10 books a year
- Smoking/ingesting tobacco products
- using physically addictive drugs (including prescription)
- Antidepressants
- One too many stories regarding her bad karma behavior, or has long-term close friends with history of bad karma behavior (i.e. previous boyfriend was a gun-carrying, cocaine-dealing gangster)
- doesn't like / not good at PDA (public displays of affection)
- "like totally, you know, I was all, like, you know, totally, and he was all, like, you know, totally all like, that, you know what I mean, I mean, my bad, like, whatever."
- more than a couple tattoos & piercings
- she has to be choked to get off
- can't get off at all
- during sex she doesn't move
- Golden showers


Nearly all these I find out before the date or definitely by 2nd date; so "five dates in..." means the guy's a little slow to pick up on the details, ya know, like, she's all, like, you know, like that, it's crazy, she's all, like, my bad, like, whatever, you know?

[ILikeSmartHippies]

Originally Posted by MonaLisaVito

Not having a pulse would be a start

Dude, but that's soo GOTH.

[MonaLisaVito]

Originally Posted by Chowhound

You with your high expectations....

Hey, everyone should have a fair shot from the get go

[MoonBeam33]

Out of nowhere, he slapped me on the ass
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Buh-bye.

[MonaLisaVito]

Originally Posted by Annie3

Out of nowhere, he slapped me on the ass
?????????????????

Buh-bye.

That's sounds fun to me

[Connecticut Pam]

Originally Posted by Danbo1957

You meet someone, hit it off fast. You're smiling every minute of the day after you met him/her. Five dates in, he/she says/does something that turns you completely off... instantly. What is it?For me, any illegal drug use, or abuse of other drugs and/or alcohol.

I agree with all of the above but add to this...girlfriend or wife showing up where we are on our "date"...Ugh...