I've heard women say: "I don't have any female friends"....why is this?
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"But yeah, I was originally attracted to them. And they put the "chill" brakes on me... but we discovered that we LIKED each other and had information for each other... so we remained friends through the years. If we're simply blind slaves to our biology, then we miss the growth and wisdom half the world has to share with us!"
This is wisdom. ^^^^^^
That's all fine until the guy gets a girlfriend, which he invariably will. SHE won't want the "girl friend" hanging around him imparting her wisdom... Which is stupid, because if she wanted him sexually, the new GF wouldn't even be in the picture... But the new GF never sees it like this; take it from me.
It might be because you're interested in only "girly" things. Shopping at the mall, mani/pedi spa days, lunch out... I'd rather take a beating than waste my time and money on any of that! I like to be active.
Yeah and women are 'inactive'. I'm sure watching sports on TV is the most active thing most men do. I am definitely more physically active than the average male (or female).
One of the posters said, "most married women with children don't have much in common with footloose-and-fancy-free single/childless women". Biggest fallacy of all time.
Most single/childless women are NOT footloose and fancy free. Personally I spent many years taking care of an aging parent and I was far busier than many married women with children, that is, older children (I can see that women with babies or toddlers might be busier). Most married women have husbands to help with household tasks and they eat out a lot or do takeout. They might spend a lot of time shuttling their around to friends or having friends come over but that isn't a major necessity in my opinion, they could cut back on that stuff to be less busy if they wanted. I was taking care of an aging parent's medical care plus the parent's house, my house, and doing all of the tasks involved for both properties such as cleaning, grass cutting, car maintenance, food shopping, cooking, and laundry. I didn't have a partner or spouse to help. I also was working 50-60 hour weeks.
I think married women don't get along with single/childless women because they simply do not care about women who aren't in the "club". Let's face it.
Yeah and women are 'inactive'. I'm sure watching sports on TV is the most active thing most men do. I am definitely more physically active than the average male (or female).
Hey, maybe it's just where I live (in the south), but for the most part here, women shop, go out to eat, and talk about other women behind their backs; that's about it! BOR-ING.
"Most single/childless women are NOT footloose and fancy free. Personally I spent many years taking care of an aging parent and I was far busier than many married women with children..."
I didn't mean idle or without responsibilities; I just meant unattached to the traditional family unit.
Sometimes it is easy to confuse short term female "buddies" with long term female friends. It can be a painful lesson to learn.
Over the years it has been easy to have lots of "social buddies" ---exercise buddies, walking buddies, social activities buddies, neighborhood bbq buddies, garden consult buddies, antiquing buddies, lunch buddies, shopping buddies, work buddies, parent of kid in same activity buddy, spouse of your spouse's shared activity or work, etc...those type buddy friendships are centered around that activity and take continual participation to maintain.
True female fiendships are something entirely different. Those are special and last a lifetime without continual maintenance. It has been my experience that few women are good at being those type of friends. I have several and consider myself very lucky.
To address the OP: I think most women who say such things are striving to be seen as the "cool girl," the one who tolerates dude behavior and acts like a dude in an attempt to be attractive to dudes.
If you're a decent human being, you have friends of both sexes.
In my experience, the ones who say this are ones who like to surround themselves with men for the attention, and don't make any effort to relate to other women.
When I was a teen it was different but I don't remember the last time I sat around talking about frivolous topics with other women.
Straight guy's perspective here: You are absolutely correct. I personally don't see the point of being platonic "friends" with a woman. There's just no reason to do that. The time I'm spending talking/going out casually with a woman who's just a platonic friend could be better spent trying to get together with a woman who wants more than just friendship. That's just the way it is. I guess men & women are wired differently...
The only way a platonic friendship with a woman would even possibly work would be if I wasn't attracted to her physically. But, if that were the case, I wouldn't be hanging out with her in the first place...
What if the female was funny, intelligent, or just plain cool?
Only worth associating with if a vagina is at the end of it?
Do you actually GET how deranged this looks? Maybe you should join the Army...
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Which is stupid, because if she wanted him sexually, the new GF wouldn't even be in the picture... But the new GF never sees it like this; take it from me.
