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Are the bills getting paid?
Is he maintaining a decent level of health?
Is he emotionally available for you?
Is the house clean?
If all of the above are true, I think you need to leave him be on this issue.
Yes and no.
My mom used to claim she was totally happy doing nothing, just watching TV. She wasn't, she was depressed. Now she is out doing things and you can tell she is much happier, and she agrees.
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My father is like this. Always been like this, now that he’s retired, it’s even worse. He just sits around the house, maybe watching a bit of t.v. or playing around with his smartphone. I’d be bored outta of my mind just sitting around and just daydreaming to pass time. I don’t understand how someone not realize there’s more to life than just sitting around everyday
If that is what he wants, he is an adult and that is his decision.
I love getting up early so I will have more time to just sit around and do nothing. I mean nothing, ok i will surf the net for a few hours while I drink some coffee, then maybe head out to the shop to sit around and listen to the radio while I snicker and laugh about old times. (maybe a dab or two at this time) I will do some stuff on a few small projects but not too much after all I am retired.
I can only speak for myself but I worked for 40 years supporting a family. In fact I was the boss at work so everyone always came to me. Someone always wanted something from me. Well nobody gets anything from me any longer.
I am enjoying my retirement by just sitting around and goofing off. Sure I play some xbox but you can only kill so many cartoons before it gets boring.
So to all you lazy folks like me, two thumbs up. Enjoy your time because our time is short here on earth.
I love getting up early so I will have more time to just sit around and do nothing. I mean nothing, ok i will surf the net for a few hours while I drink some coffee, then maybe head out to the shop to sit around and listen to the radio while I snicker and laugh about old times. (maybe a dab or two at this time) I will do some stuff on a few small projects but not too much after all I am retired.
I can only speak for myself but I worked for 40 years supporting a family. In fact I was the boss at work so everyone always came to me. Someone always wanted something from me. Well nobody gets anything from me any longer.
I am enjoying my retirement by just sitting around and goofing off. Sure I play some xbox but you can only kill so many cartoons before it gets boring.
So to all you lazy folks like me, two thumbs up. Enjoy your time because our time is short here on earth.
Two types of retirees from what I've seen. Those that are busy w/ something all the time, find things to do and are planning more things to do. They're active and have found a new purpose whatever it might be. Second type is passing time, sitting around more, maybe bored and hasn't enough to do. I've seen retired people busier than working people.
set up a list of activities and have him pick and choose..
can be daily/weekly..
also emphasize on self improvement …..working out....even if its just walking at first..
this should give him more energy
No, no and no. Don't do this.
If you want to invite him to join in activities that you enjoy, that's fine. But please don't try to commandeer his life, suggesting that he should be wanting to engage in self-improvement. That is your opinion - it may not be his.
If you think he is clinically depressed, you could gently bring up what you've noticed and ask if he's okay and what you can do to help.
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