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This phrase is massively overused, to the point of almost being insulting when it's thrown out there. Why can't people say what they REALLY think when terrible things happen? An example would be instead of using that stupid line in regards to a mass shooting, why don't news reporters and politicians say something like this: "The absolute P.O.S. who shot these people deserves to be shot in the town square and placed to wave in the wind. There is nothing we can say to make their families and friends feel any better and we are so sorry we don't have the words."
I'd respect people a lot more for saying what is really on their minds, that's the truth.
Amen to this.
When I'm grieving and reaching out to friends, and the best they've got is "In our hearts and minds" I tend to just skip on by, because I'm looking for solace and hope, maybe. All the little praying hands emojis, and trite little "I'll pray for you" ...it just doesn't really cut it.
Oh, and I forgot to mention this: "It's not personal, it's just business." Newsflash- whether they are in the right or not, whatever it is IS personal to whoever this is directed to. It seems like a phrase people use to justify whatever they are doing, while knowing that it will upset someone.
I'm not saying that it is never true or applicable, but there are definitely times that phrase is used as a shield for people to feel okay about screwing someone else over.
Reminds me of 3 of my cousins. All 3 of them sisters, and all three of them married successful men.
One of them owned a bank. The other 2 husbands (and their wives) purposely put him out of business, to the point my cousin and him had to file bankruptcy. They just laughed and said "it's just business." Somehow, she forgave.
So I'm like "No way!" and then he's like "No, it's true!" then I'm like "Where did you hear that?" and then he's like "I don't remember" and then I'm like ...
I can't stand no worries either because I'm hardly ever worried about it
Sometimes I feel that grammar which is actually correct, but used so seldom, sounds "wrong". And it annoys me when people say things correctly, because it sounds so foreign.
" ... The country TO WHICH he was traveling."
How are you? "I am WELL, thanks."
It gives me the impression not that the person is being pretentious, but I am simply puzzled why they feel compelled to speak that way - I cannot imagine an informal conversation taking place using such phrasing. It would sound so stuffy, like you're reading off a page instead of speaking your mind.
Actual incorrect grammar, even hypercorrection, doesn't bother me nearly as much, if at all.
Sometimes I feel that grammar which is actually correct, but used so seldom, sounds "wrong". And it annoys me when people say things correctly, because it sounds so foreign.
" ... The country TO WHICH he was traveling."
How are you? "I am WELL, thanks."
It gives me the impression not that the person is being pretentious, but I am simply puzzled why they feel compelled to speak that way - I cannot imagine an informal conversation taking place using such phrasing. It would sound so stuffy, like you're reading off a page instead of speaking your mind.
Actual incorrect grammar, even hypercorrection, doesn't bother me nearly as much, if at all.
Obligatory empathy
and it's killing me to even do this much
Now go away
Pretty sure that was scary close to a haiku, and accurately echoes the sentiment behind such remarks.
I believe it's a misconception that things like "Bless your heart" mean "FU" but it's more dismissive than anything. "Oh, that's terrible! Moving on..."
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