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Half is paid by grants and scholarships, while the other half is paid by loans. He has no part in that.
If I were you, I'd put school on hold for some time, move in with my grandparents, find a job, get on my feet, and then continue with school and possibly getting my own place. No matter what they think, they're still your grandparents and won't leave you and the kids on the street.
So far I have seen nothing but denial and excuses. Either get out now or don't, it is your choice but sitting in front of a computer screen is not going to get the getting out process started. You do not need to wait for a shelter to open, you need to dial 911 and tell them that you are being abused and you and your children need to get out of the home immediately. 911 is open all the time and they are equipped to deal with situations like yours immediately. Grow up already and do what is best for your children at this moment. If you choose to stay with this man do so but give your children to someone who will keep them safe from harm and teach them that it is not ok to abuse or be abused by another human.
I called the domestic abuse hotline for the local shelter and received some info. Not very encouraging though, must I say. It's a 6 week program, I would be able to stay there and they would provide me with counseling and try to get me into hud housing which with the economy is not very likely to happen, quoting her here. I could do that. Also, if I really needed to, I possibly (but don't know for sure), move to where my ex is and allow him to keep the children and me live on campus, but I would still be really close to them seeings there's a state university close by. Only prob with that is 1. financial aid may not pay for me to live on campus and 2. If I don't have a vehicle, I don't know if I would be able to see my kids on a regular enough basis. Yeah, that's just starting to sound like worse and worse of an idea the more I think about it.
I have enough crap on my hands right now without you throwing out there that he abuses my kids also. Never has he or would he. He's best friends with them, it's me and him that can't get along for the love of God.
Yeah, you know, actually I do. When you can point out a single point in this forum in which I've lied to you or anyone else, you can then question that. Not only is he great with my children, he's great with every child I've ever seen him with. My daughter has him wrapped around her little finger. If me and him got along the way they did, we'd be doing much better. Please don't call my credibility into question. I haven't lied here or tried to deceive any one in any way. I came here for help, not to get solutions to a false scenario.
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Yeah, he doesn't hit my children in any way, shape, or form, so please don't start assuming that. I have enough crap on my hands right now without you throwing out there that he abuses my kids also. Never has he or would he. He's best friends with them, it's me and him that can't get along for the love of God.
Yeah, I missed this one. Really?Anyone who abuses a child's mother or father abuses that child and in a very profound way. Never think for one moment they don't see it. They often react in different ways than you might think, but they're a lot smarter than many obviously give them credit for. My brothers and sisters heard it. I responded to it by trying to stay out of trouble. I thought if I were better behaved, it might stop--the abuse to my mother. It had nothing to do with me though. Guess how old I was. Five. They know. And it IS abusive to them.
but just to make you feel a little better, the kids have a Dad that would love to have them anytime. They would never be placed with "Bob"
If they have a dad that would love to have them anytime, why aren't they with their father? This isn't making sense.
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