Will men stop desiring me once I get into my 30s and beyond? (girlfriend, family)
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As you get into your 30's and 40's there'll be another hazard you may be encountering, the men may stop desiring you, but the boys will start desiring you.
That's what happened to me during my 40's, warding off the younger set looking for mother/father figures, and, amusingly, I've never stopped chasing after the older set!
For Chrissakes, I'm 62 now, still chasing after them, the older set!
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You're married? Well what are you worrying about? And why do you think your husband will behave like most men? Don't you trust him enough that he loves you?
it depends on what you will be like when you get older. i guess if you start acting like a decrepid senile old fart, he might want to replace you for a younger youthful beauty with more pep than yourself.
Seriously, honey, I have enjoyed my 30s way more than my 20s and it keeps getting better. I love getting older. I also look better than I did in my mid and late 20s.
I concur actually can't believe the saying life begins at 40 is true for me. In my teens and 20s, I was miserable!!! But it is coz of my own doing. Life really is what you make of it. Trust me.
If being young and hot is ALL you bring to the table, I can see why this may be a worry.
Just make sure you have more going for you than that.
Just like women, men like a whole package, especially men as they mature. You should be developing your career, your intellect, wit, and develop a passion for something... exercise, hobbies, french lit..... something.
Just like women, men like a whole package, especially men as they mature. You should be developing your career, your intellect, wit, and develop a passion for something... exercise, hobbies, french lit..... something.
Absolutely we do. Being attractive at 40 or 50 is semi-important but more important is being loving, kind, compassionate, caring and so on. Most women get better with age. At about 32 they blossom into full blown women / ladies. They stop playing the girl games of their youth.
We well adjusted mature men love well adjusted mature women. Also love all the great Bedroom skills they've learned over the years.
Absolutely we do. Being attractive at 40 or 50 is semi-important but more important is being loving, kind, compassionate, caring and so on. Most women get better with age. At about 32 they blossom into full blown women / ladies. They stop playing the girl games of their youth.
We well adjusted mature men love well adjusted mature women. Also love all the great Bedroom skills they've learned over the years.
Well said....
OP, if you are looking to attract shallow men only based on your looks, you'll have some trouble as you get older. Jersey Shore type guys will overlook you. As others have mentioned, it may help to get some counseling to determine why you have this viewpoint - what it says about your understanding/value about yourself and about men in general.
Luckily, there are many great men out there who look for the qualities described in the above post. Some of the most well-adjusted and "desirable" (e.g. wealthy, powerful, intelligent, attractive) men out there look for these qualities. I mean what do you think about Wallace Simpson or Camilla Parker Bowles? They were older, average-looking women desired by royalty - men who risked the crown for them.
My own FIL is highly successful, wealthy, intelligent, attractive, with an oceanfront house. Many women in Palm Beach pursued him and he could have snared some young 20-something. But who did he take as a 2nd wife? A twice divorced, overweight, similar aged woman he met at church. Before we met her, he went on and on about how beautiful she was. We were expecting a model. Boy were we surprised. But she is the most beautiful woman in the world to him.
My own FIL is highly successful, wealthy, intelligent, attractive, with an oceanfront house. Many women in Palm Beach pursued him and he could have snared some young 20-something. But who did he take as a 2nd wife? A twice divorced, overweight, similar aged woman he met at church. Before we met her, he went on and on about how beautiful she was. We were expecting a model. Boy were we surprised. But she is the most beautiful woman in the world to him.
What is this supposed to prove?
Is a man who is successful and attractive supposed to go for a divorced and overweight woman?
Maybe there is a lot of truth to the idea that most women are hypergamous?
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