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You can't argue morality. That's what this post is turning into. She basically took a break from her boyfriend with him thinking that it was for HER to think about their relationship going forward. He was never told this, he never knew that it was a break so that SHE could sleep with a random guy twice. But hey, it was a break says "the one lacking in morality". I guess anything to let you sleep at night.
The op obviously lacks morals. You loved him so much that it took you all of two days to get with someone else? Hmm, that's not the love I'm sure your boyfriend THINKS that he has. He is thinking that you were hurt, albeit for an untrue reason. The boyfriend doesn't need the op. He doesn't need all of the manipulation that she brings or the cruelty that she obviously shows as well as a lack of maturity. Op, do your boyfriend a favor and leave him. You sound like you don't even want a relationship. Actions speak louder than words. Let your boyfriend find an honest, faithful girl. That's the decision you should make if you love him so much. Let him find someone with similar morals/ values. Make this the most "unselfish" decision that you have ever made. Cut him lose.
Again, no it is not. And simply saying it is does not make it so.
Single is single. You want to pretend that WHEN the singlehood occoured changes everything. I see no reason - except your constant assertion to the contrary - to think this is true.
That sentence sums up exactly what I think rationalmale's entire point here actually is. Yet aside from his assertion that it is so - I see no reason to think that it is so.
I get you two want to be able to dump chumps, sleep around, and go back to them without consequence when new guy pumps and dumps you, like the OP, but that is not the way of the world.
You can whine all over internet forums that you shouldn't have to be accountable for the people you sleep with and who that affects, but it doesn't change reality.
Again, no it is not. And simply saying it is does not make it so.
Single is single. You want to pretend that WHEN the singlehood occoured changes everything. I see no reason - except your constant assertion to the contrary - to think this is true.
I spelled it out for you why it was a straw man, but just like every single one of your responses, you picked one sentence in my post, responded to that, and failed to address why it wasn't a straw man.
You can't argue morality. That's what this post is turning into. She basically took a break from her boyfriend with him thinking that it was for HER to think about their relationship going forward. He was never told this, he never knew that it was a break so that SHE could sleep with a random guy twice. But hey, it was a break says "the one lacking in morality". I guess anything to let you sleep at night.
The op obviously lacks morals. You loved him so much that it took you all of two days to get with someone else? Hmm, that's not the love I'm sure your boyfriend THINKS that he has. He is thinking that you were hurt, albeit for an untrue reason. The boyfriend doesn't need the op. He doesn't need all of the manipulation that she brings or the cruelty that she obviously shows as well as a lack of maturity. Op, do your boyfriend a favor and leave him. You sound like you don't even want a relationship. Actions speak louder than words. Let your boyfriend find an honest, faithful girl. That's the decision you should make if you love him so much. Let him find someone with similar morals/ values. Make this the most "unselfish" decision that you have ever made. Cut him lose.
The bolded hits it on he head. And I simply can't believe all the women on this thread who think this is just fine and dandy for the OP to lie to her boyfriend and carry on.
One of the many, many reasons I don't date anymore.
If he slept with prostitutes 5 years ago, no. If he slept with prostitutes while they were on a "break," then yes.
There's no false equivalency as I'm using the logic that it is manipulation to withhold one knows will likely affect another's decision. I'm quite unsure if you know what that word means.
Why is only what he did when they were on break her right to know/what she deserves to know? Why is it only manipulation when he withholds it when they are on break when irrelevant of the time the act is something that will most likely affect her decision to be with him?
There's no false equivalency as I'm using the logic that it is manipulation to withhold one knows will likely affect another's decision. I'm quite unsure if you know what that word means.
Why is only what he did when they were on break her right to know/what she deserves to know? Why is it only manipulation when he withholds it when they are on break when irrelevant of the time the act is something that will most likely affect her decision to be with him?
The manipulation is the fact that she asked for a "break" but not for what she was intending it to be. She used it as a way to go have sex twice with some random guy. That is "manipulation" for lack of a better word.
There's no false equivalency as I'm using the logic that it is manipulation to withhold one knows will likely affect another's decision. I'm quite unsure if you know what that word means.
Why is only what he did when they were on break her right to know/what she deserves to know? Why is it only manipulation when he withholds it when they are on break when irrelevant of the time the act is something that will most likely affect her decision to be with him?
If you can't see the difference between things that happened before they knew each other and things that happened since last month, there's really not much I can do for you. Sorry.
Again, it's a thread like this that makes me glad I don't date. Some of you women are completely without a shred of human decency.
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