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I wasn't parked far away. There are just several sides of the restaurant where you can park, and I was parked on a different side than he was. I picked a less crowded side, so there weren't many cars back there. I wouldn't have felt uncomfortable with him walking me to my car because I didn't get a bad vibe from him, and I've met lots of guys from online and I've never had a bad experience with anyone walking me to my car.
If you ever do, or someone you know does, you will very likely change your mind.
Now you say you were parked in a parking lot? Why on earth WOULD you need a man to walk you through a parking lot? You also said no. So why are you annoyed? I am sorry, but I am with the others here who say this does not make sense. If you tell a man "no thank you" then don't get angry when he respects you enough to listen to you!
If you ever do, or someone you know does, you will very likely change your mind.
Now you say you were parked in a parking lot? Why on earth WOULD you need a man to walk you through a parking lot?
I don't NEED him to. It just would've been nice.
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You also said no. So why are you annoyed? I am sorry, but I am with the others here who say this does not make sense. If you tell a man "no thank you" then don't get angry when he respects you enough to listen to you!
I didn't reject his offer to walk me to my car because he never made that specific offer. Also, I never said that I was "annoyed." I just mentioned in my original post that he didn't walk me to my car because...he didn't!
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Seriously...how obtuse (or disingenuous) can you be? If it's been a good date then the guy seeing you off to your car may be the closest thing to a kiss at your door! The "courtesy" is a pretense of him seeing to your safety - so usually a chivalrous bit of fluff that makes most people feel warm and fuzzy and rarely is it predominantly about safety. But if you're meeting at a restaurant, are you going to say your goodbyes in the lobby and kiss THERE? Or do you want a slightly more extended and private opportunity at her car? Nothing is guaranteed but it provides an opportunity if the mood is right for both.
Exactly this.
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I thought it was funny because we have so many guys here who gripe about paying for dates. Your date is probably their new role model.
I didn't reject his offer to walk me to my car because he never made that specific offer.
He didn't read your specific mind and know you wanted him to walk you to your car without him needing to ask.
You didn't read his mind in knowing that your rejection of his offer to help you on the sidewalk might have made him think that you didn't want him to walk you to his car.
You guys are
either perfect for each other
terrible for each other
or
something in between
He didn't read your specific mind and know you wanted him to walk you to your car without him needing to ask.
You didn't read his mind in knowing that your rejection of his offer to help you on the sidewalk might have made him think that you didn't want him to walk you to his car.
You guys are
either perfect for each other
terrible for each other
or
something in between
What's done is done. I'm not going to worry about what I said or didn't say. I feel like he did what he wanted to do.
If you ever do, or someone you know does, you will very likely change your mind.
Now you say you were parked in a parking lot? Why on earth WOULD you need a man to walk you through a parking lot? You also said no. So why are you annoyed? I am sorry, but I am with the others here who say this does not make sense. If you tell a man "no thank you" then don't get angry when he respects you enough to listen to you!
This is where I really don't understand women at all. They will tell a man they can do something themselves or say no when a man offers to help them and then get mad when he listens and backs off. If a woman tells me no then she can't get mad when I don't do something.
Ask for separate checks.
Tell someone they don't want them to do something, and then find it strange that they don't do it.
People are crazy.
Which makes communication pretty important.
Back to reading his mind?
I guess I'm lucky.
I've managed to avoid dating people as crazy as y'all in here.
Women while I love them sometimes I just don't understand them. I am a man who takes everything at face value and if a woman tells me no on anything then I'm going to respect that. But then I see some of the things women post on here and it's like damn you can't win either way
Guy should have asked you up front before you ate if that was okay. He doesn't sound like a dating newbie. When I did the OLD thing I bought a lot of meals tilI i wised up. There are a lot of women out there dating just for free meals. I actually had several admit it.
He didn't read your specific mind and know you wanted him to walk you to your car without him needing to ask.
You didn't read his mind in knowing that your rejection of his offer to help you on the sidewalk might have made him think that you didn't want him to walk you to his car.
You guys are either perfect for each other
terrible for each other
or
something in between
LMAO. With that forecast you hit 100% of the population. Congrats you're a genius
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If a woman tells me no then she can't get mad when I don't do something.
