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I'm generally distrustful of anyone I do not know. Man or woman.
Yeah, but you complain about only one gender on behavior that should be unacceptable from both genders.
Wasn't sure if you were aware of that.
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Again I say, with a little cleverness and creativity, a man doesn't have to spend a lot on a first meeting to feel a woman out. Coffee dates, walks in the park, or street festivals are ideal first meetings that don't cost much. Women I've found are pretty receptive to those date ideas. There is not reason in 2016 to do a dinner date as a first date, with a good woman.
I think this depends on your income level. If you're a 5%er, what's the big deal with a dinner date if you want to go out to dinner? It's not like $50 to $100 for a casual dinner particularly matters if $10K/month is landing in your checking account as direct deposit. If you have a $10/hour service sector job? Sure. Stick to the $5.00 coffee date or the free activity. There is no universal rule.
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I think this depends on your income level. If you're a 5%er, what's the big deal with a dinner date if you want to go out to dinner? It's not like $50 to $100 for a casual dinner particularly matters if $10K/month is landing in your checking account as direct deposit. If you have a $10/hour service sector job? Sure. Stick to the $5.00 coffee date or the free activity. There is no universal rule.
I've heard it many times, the people who stay rich don't display that they are rich. If I was super rich, I'd probably still be reluctant to spend much on initial dates. That way I know a woman wants me for me and not what I can provide for her. I just think when you first meet someone, keeping the expenses to a minimum is a good idea to make sure money does not bring an unhealthy dynamic to the relationship and you make sure someone is interested in you if you can't give them the world.
I've heard it many times, the people who stay rich don't display that they are rich. If I was super rich, I'd probably still be reluctant to spend much on initial dates. That way I know a woman wants me for me and not what I can provide for her. I just think when you first meet someone, keeping the expenses to a minimum is a good idea to make sure money does not bring an unhealthy dynamic to the relationship and you make sure someone is interested in you if you can't give them the world.
I'm not saying this to be mean or gold-diggery, but if you know that women generally like men who can provide and you become a man who can provide, why wouldn't you want to show her that? It doesn't mean that she can't also like you for you, but why do you think she would pick you over someone else who she likes who shows her that he can also provide for her? That doesn't mean you need to spend a ton of money on dates but why be cheap just to see if someone "likes you for you?" You (and other men) don't just like women for who they are either, so why do women need to just like you for you?
Sometimes those hair/nail appointments run longer than expected, but it sounds like she kept you informed and hopefully she apologized to you for her lateness. But no, you're not a "sucker" just because you asked out a woman and paid for the date.
It also sounds like she was making an attempt to look good for him.
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