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It's absolutely relevant.
Asking "did you ever date a Jew" =/= nazi
He did?
He asked about the tattoo. She said she got it at a different stage of her life.
What did he ask about her asking if he'd dated a Jew?
I may have missed that along the way.
She might be a disgusting racist Nazi
She might not
It might even be likely she's a disgusting racist Nazi
She might not
I'd advise the guy to talk to her over listening to the opinions of a bunch of people who've never met her.
But you're one of those people too.
They have been on 4 dates. So easy to just walk away. If I found out someone I had been married to for decades had a swastika tattoo and had it removed, I'd reconsider, I don't know, everything about the relationship. The tattoo alone is a really big deal. The question about dating a Jewish woman just adds some rancidity to the mix.
Right.
Which is why I'm not offering my opinion on whether or not she's a Nazi (whatever that really means in this day and age).
Because I don't know.
Neither does anyone else
Only she does. And she might not actually know either.
Hold up.
This is the crux of the matter.
You don't know that this is true.
What part of this comment from OP is unclear on the subject?
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Originally Posted by Griphin
So wanted to give an update: I talked to her about it, she said she got it when she was 19 and she was just really angry going through some life issues then and got involved with the wrong people. She said she doesn't have any racist or prejudice views and she would remove it but hasn't really had the money to.
What part of this comment from OP is unclear on the subject?
It seems pretty clear to me
She says that she no longer has those beliefs.
Now, she may be telling the truth, or lying, or be unsure herself.
Thus, making a declarative statement like "dumb her, she's a Nazi" seems much more reactionary than "talk to her more and find out what she really believes"
It seems pretty clear to me
She says that she no longer has those beliefs.
Now, she may be telling the truth, or lying, or be unsure herself.
Thus, making a declarative statement like "dumb her, she's a Nazi" seems much more reactionary than "talk to her more and find out what she really believes"
Sometimes "reaction" is not a bad thing.
I personally wouldn't waste my time on someone who is, at best, showing a supreme lack of awareness, but OP's little head has already made the choice.
And, seriously LOL at the idea that anything she says to him is going to change the little head's mind.
No one is asking you to waste your time
Or who you would or wouldn't waste your time on
The OP asked for some advice.
The best advice certainly isn't to assume we know about this girl than none of us have met
The best advice, as in almost all relationship questions, is TALK TO THE PERSON.
The best advice certainly isn't to assume we know about this girl than none of us have met
The best advice, as in almost all relationship questions, is TALK TO THE PERSON.
There ya go.
For the umpteenth time, he has and will most certainly ignore anything she says in favor of what his little head is telling him.
The best advice certainly isn't to assume we know about this girl than none of us have met
The best advice, as in almost all relationship questions, is TALK TO THE PERSON.
That is your best advice, and others are giving their best advice. You do not have a direct line to any type of truth.
The OP publicly asked for advice, and he is getting it.
Personally, I would drop anyone that had a swastika tattoo and asked that question. I would not even hesitate for a minute. Don't care that it was in youth, I could never respect anyone who had EVER had those beliefs.
It's only 4 dates in and there are way too many fish in the sea for that kind stuff.
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That is your best advice, and others are giving their best advice. You do not have a direct line to any type of truth.
All advice is not equal.
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