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I didn't try. I had the spare bedroom made up for each of these women who came to visit me. I fully expected them to sleep on their own. But they didn't. One of the women I had visited previously, as she only lives a couple hours away, so I did figure we would sleep together. But the other two, it was quite surprising as they had held themselves out to be demure, which they weren't. Ultimately it wasn't appealing to me. Guess I'm old fashioned.
Why are you dating people who have to fly a distance and stay for the weekend, or whatever, in order to date you? Do you live in the Aleutians, or out in rural Maine, or some similarly isolated location? And why can't they stay in a hotel? Could you bring us up to speed on that aspect of your situation? This isn't making sense.
The OP doesn’t have a problem meeting or finding women..
The OP has a problem trying to not fornicate with them before he even knows them..
Hence the term “meaningless sex.” It wouldn’t be meaningless if you actually got to know the person first
Yes, the sex was rather meaningless, aside from the physical benefits. But I really had hoped to get to know these women better and assess the potential for something long term. I had spent quite a bit of time on the phone with these women getting to know them and expected to build upon that once they visited. I think ultimately we just weren't compatible. But I definitely learned a few things from these encounters and have made adjustments in my vetting process.
I didn't try. I had the spare bedroom made up for each of these women who came to visit me. I fully expected them to sleep on their own. But they didn't. One of the women I had visited previously, as she only lives a couple hours away, so I did figure we would sleep together. But the other two, it was quite surprising as they had held themselves out to be demure, which they weren't. Ultimately it wasn't appealing to me. Guess I'm old fashioned.
Wait wait because the woman wanted some with you she's not demure? You did it too!!!
Yes, the sex was rather meaningless, aside from the physical benefits. But I really had hoped to get to know these women better and assess the potential for something long term. I had spent quite a bit of time on the phone with these women getting to know them and expected to build upon that once they visited. I think ultimately we just weren't compatible. But I definitely learned a few things from these encounters and have made adjustments in my vetting process.
Did they submit a bill to you afterwards, by any chance?
Yes, the sex was rather meaningless, aside from the physical benefits. But I really had hoped to get to know these women better and assess the potential for something long term. I had spent quite a bit of time on the phone with these women getting to know them and expected to build upon that once they visited. I think ultimately we just weren't compatible. But I definitely learned a few things from these encounters and have made adjustments in my vetting process.
Nothinglike plumbing this topic in depth. Just sayin'.
Yet you feel the need to specifically state in the original post how easy it is for you. Thanks?
“Can someone help me? I’m having all this easy hot sex and plenty of dates with hot people but can’t find love. I’m really lost and don’t know what’s wrong.”
How about trying not to go to the bedroom in record time with everyone you meet? Perhaps that could help.
Wait wait because the woman wanted some with you she's not demure? You did it too!!!
My take away was that, if they so quickly jumped into bed with me, how many other men had they done the same with. I started to feel mislead by them as, like I stated earlier, they held themselves out to be something different. The one woman who lives closer to me was much more honest in how she portrayed herself.
"We live in a world where people are afraid to feel anything genuine, or at the very least, are afraid to show it. When someone is angry with you, there’s no phone call asking to talk about it. Instead you get a passive aggressive response to a text message or a suspiciously relevant subtweet, quietly calling you out in 140 characters or less. If you like someone, you don’t tell them how you feel; rather you act interested enough for them to pick up on it, but not enough to freak them out. Don’t like it? Too bad. It’s all a big game and if you don’t play by the rules then you lose, and if you lose you end up alone and drowning in a pile of your own insecurity, wondering what you did wrong."
In other words: I was hurt in the past so now I'm projecting my pain, anguish, & frustration onto the entire dating world yet I'll continue to mingle because dying alone be scary yo.
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