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I wanted to say sorry to everyone for not answering everything and for not replying
I don’t think I am actually married. My friend and I are calling around figuring stuff out. Basically things arent lining up and we can’t find proof.
I’m sorry and am embarrassed and sorry to anyone who wasted their time helping me. I am realizing how stupid I am but I am trying to help myself now. I am trying to figure out what happened.
Ah, this is actually good news. If the very courthouse you married at doesn't have any evidence or paperwork, you can make a clean break and it won't cost you a thing to set things in motion. Dump the chump.
And for future reference, it's always good to meet the family beforehand, it's a good way to know what you're getting into (both good and bad).
I got married about a month ago and I havent met my in laws yet because they live in another city. I think it’s weird that I havent met any of my husbands family but he does talk about them. When we got married we did the courthouse thing and plan to have an actual wedding once things slow down with him at work. So since there has not been a wedding I have not met any of his family yet. He has met my sister but I don’t have much family to introduce him to anymore.
Over the holidays like Christmas and Thanksgiving I expected us to go visit his family but he went alone both times. I asked him why we couldn’t go together and both times he told me he wanted to tell them in person he got married and not just over the phone and he wanted to be alone when he told them. So I stayed behind both times. But now I’m starting to wedding plan and when I ask when I can meet them he says soon but then changes the subject.
That seems weird right? Its not just me? I know they exist because I’ve seen pictures and stuff so I don’t know what it could be.
Very strange! I wouldn't have gotten married until I met them. Maybe he doesn't think they will approve of you and he is scared of them?
Someone here said another wife but he wouldn't be allowed to marry you if he was married- do courts check other marriages when you do a court marriage?
Well 2 choices: #1 start demanding you go with him the next time he sees his family.
#2 follow him in an Uber to see where he REALLY goes.....
I wanted to say sorry to everyone for not answering everything and for not replying
I don’t think I am actually married. My friend and I are calling around figuring stuff out. Basically things arent lining up and we can’t find proof.
I’m sorry and am embarrassed and sorry to anyone who wasted their time helping me. I am realizing how stupid I am but I am trying to help myself now. I am trying to figure out what happened.
Let's pray you're NOT married. That would be the best case scenario.
Every situation like this can be a learning experience, so take it as the gift of learning that it is and just be more careful in the future.
Very strange! I wouldn't have gotten married until I met them. Maybe he doesn't think they will approve of you and he is scared of them?
Someone here said another wife but he wouldn't be allowed to marry you if he was married- do courts check other marriages when you do a court marriage?
Well 2 choices: #1 start demanding you go with him the next time he sees his family.
#2 follow him in an Uber to see where he REALLY goes.....
Indeed. A bit hasty and not thorough planned.
Married for a month and not living together. Doesn't he have a place to live? Can't they live there together?
Never met the family. Too many secrets. Shame?
OP stated that she is a devoted churchgoer but wants to change her faith? Live as a Mormon? Does she know what that REALLY means and how it will change her life?
There's a Mormon text still used today that States: "No career approaches in importance that of wife, homemaker, mother – cooking meals, washing dishes, making beds for one's precious husband and children." The Church does not approve of any form of birth control.
Mormon women are encouraged to have as many children as they feel able to. The religious code affected family life in multiple ways too. Mormon women do not have many rights and are not permitted to make decisions that affect anyone but other women and perhaps children (and even then, such decisions must always be approved by male priesthood leaders). Women and girls are conditioned by a culture to obey male authority. Such a system is at great risk for abuse. Mormon religion has a long and unfortunate history of regarding women as objects.
OP should get take the time to get familiar with the rules and expectations of Mormon Church and her role as a wife and mother. Saying that everyone seems to be very nice isn't enough. Being neglected and abused most of her life makes her an easy prey to manipulative men who don't respect women rights.
Maybe not having rights is OK with OP because, unfortunately, she was abused most of her life. So, nothing will really change...
Mormons don't drink coffee, tea, alcohol or smoke. Women wear extremely conservative clothes. They cant have low-cut tops or tops that reveal their stomachs. Their shoulders must be covered and their dresses need to reach their knees, and often ankles. They can't wear anything tight or suggestive. They must strictly follow Church rules and adhere to the faith's strict rules.
The Mormon people I know are not as conservative as you are describing! The few I know- one lady is divorced with a child and remarried someone else who accepted her. Some young people I know dress normal.
I wanted to say sorry to everyone for not answering everything and for not replying
I don’t think I am actually married. My friend and I are calling around figuring stuff out. Basically things arent lining up and we can’t find proof.
I’m sorry and am embarrassed and sorry to anyone who wasted their time helping me. I am realizing how stupid I am but I am trying to help myself now. I am trying to figure out what happened.
That's great if you are not married, but I don't get it. How do you go to a courthouse to be married and not know if you exchanged vows there? Did the two of you appear before the magistrate? How did he fake the ceremony?
That's great if you are not married, but I don't get it. How do you go to a courthouse to be married and not know if you exchanged vows there? Did the two of you appear before the magistrate? How did he fake the ceremony?
That's great if you are not married, but I don't get it. How do you go to a courthouse to be married and not know if you exchanged vows there? Did the two of you appear before the magistrate? How did he fake the ceremony?
Maybe there was no ceremony, and she confused going to get a marriage license with actually getting married.
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