San Diego = Man Diego? Bad dating scene? (Fortuna: attorney, to live)

[Bonez765]

The dating scene is bad in all of coastal california. Bay Area is no different (especially in Silicon Valley). Too many dudes and a ****ed up regional culture (especially in southern california).

[rgb123]

Originally Posted by ace77

My advice for the guys looking for a decent girl in San Diego, DON'T unless she is educated, cultured and doesn't easily fall for the Military, Buff types.

I find it that most men have a better chance looking elsewhere. Dating in San Diego is basically like dating at work or at school. (Don't **** where you eat!) If you cannot afford to date outside of San Diego, then start bettering yourself. If you want it bad enough you will work hard to better your life and find the right partner.

It seems most of the girls here are from either broken families or grew up with the ghetto mentality or attitude. Everyone has to be tough or dangerous to get respect or something.

I say this based on experience. Others may have different experiences, but for those who don't have the "SWAG" should look elsewhere.

huh?

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Originally Posted by Bonez765

The dating scene is bad in all of coastal california. Bay Area is no different (especially in Silicon Valley). Too many dudes and a ****ed up regional culture (especially in southern california).

you guys are a bunch of cry babies....try being a woman over 35 (even if you look 25, they don't care, they are irrational) your choice becomes 60 year old rich guy or younger than you idiot who thinks he deserves to use you because of some weird effed up logic (much of it seen here).

I heard rumors about the CA dating scene before moving here, its mostly true. Even if women slightly outnumber men it does not change at all the entitled attitudes that men should be able to date 10-20 years younger and the woman should look like an actress or model.

at least the military guys look good...and many have some decent morals. That's why I'd prefer one of them, they are not all 19 and just out of high school. and again that is a generalization, which I realize

unlike some people here lol....if you have so many preconcieved ideas about what is out there in a sea of millions of people you will be too closed off to meet a decent person, and if you use people, you won't meet good people, they won't want you.

[Bonez765]

Originally Posted by rgb123

you guys are a bunch of cry babies....try being a woman over 35 (even if you look 25, they don't care, they are irrational) your choice becomes 60 year old rich guy or younger than you idiot who thinks he deserves to use you because of some weird effed up logic (much of it seen here).

lolz. of course it will suck for women over 35. that's how the natural order of things go. once past age 30, it becomes vastly more difficult for women because women age much quicker than men. it's biology.

I heard rumors about the CA dating scene before moving here, its mostly true. Even if women slightly outnumber men it does not change at all the entitled attitudes that men should be able to date 10-20 years younger and the woman should look like an actress or model.

read my quote again. i mentioned that southern california is especially ****ed up. the cultural attitude there is the worst of the worst thanks to the hollywood glamor crap. this applies to both the men and women there. it's bad here in a different way in the bay area (liberals running around in their mecca) but thats a different ballpark.

unlike some people here lol....if you have so many preconcieved ideas about what is out there in a sea of millions of people you will be too closed off to meet a decent person, and if you use people, you won't meet good people, they won't want you.

lolz who said im closed off. i have seen **** with my own eyes here. i see plenty of people struggle to find a partner and know lots of people who have thrown the towel and tried elsewhere. but yet again, i can say that i dont match the vibe of californians because i tend to be way more conservative than the average californian (especially for my age group, 18-25).

[STORM-SHADOW]

Originally Posted by Bonez765

The dating scene is bad in all of coastal california. Bay Area is no different (especially in Silicon Valley). Too many dudes and a ****ed up regional culture (especially in southern california).

I know what you mean,

As an ex. Californian to experience this artificial & flakey culture. I grew up in SoCal (LA) until I graduated from HS during the late 1990s. Afterwards, I lived in NorCal (SF) during the late 1990s & early 2000s at the end of the DotCom period. I entered in the USAF (2003) during the Iraq Campaign to take off. As well I did one Iraq tour (2004-2005) during my Active Duty period. It was a REAL EXPERIENCE that I will never forget. My Active Duty station (2003-2005) was approx. 1.5 hrs away from NOLA. Text me about the CULTURE SHOCK from the US Pacific Coast to the US Southern Gulf Coast. *The dating scene in the Gulf Coast is no different from the Pacific Coast. All of these poor Gulf Coast girls want to find a meal ticket aka US service man to take care of them.* I was finally transferred from Active Duty to Reserve Duty (2005-2009). Just a couple of months before Hurricane Katrina destroyed the entire USAF base in Biloxi, MS. Moreover, I was stationed at a US Defense Dept. Logistics Depot in the US Atlantic NE during my USAF Reserve Duty period. However, I did some domestic tours in OH, VA, SC, & GA during my Reserve Duty for 4 yrs. I settled in Philly, PA & I graduated from Temple U in Business Administration at the time. Also I did a business internship in Boston, MA. Now I live & work in NYC. At the same time, I travel around the globe in my profession & I love it. Although I understand the Atlantic NE populace can be very UNFRIENDLY & RUDE, but once they get to know you then they'll open up. It is a matter of patience.

The dating scene is very competitive in the US Eastern & Northern Regions b/c there are many females, who have professional degrees. They are very ambitious & intelligent about themselves not to be insecure & irresponsible. I like that in professional women, who are not fake & shallow. This is why I LOVE living here.

[STORM-SHADOW]

Originally Posted by Bonez765

lolz. of course it will suck for women over 35. that's how the natural order of things go. once past age 30, it becomes vastly more difficult for women because women age much quicker than men. it's biology.

read my quote again. i mentioned that southern california is especially ****ed up. the cultural attitude there is the worst of the worst thanks to the hollywood glamor crap. this applies to both the men and women there. it's bad here in a different way in the bay area (liberals running around in their mecca) but thats a different ballpark.



lolz who said im closed off. i have seen **** with my own eyes here. i see plenty of people struggle to find a partner and know lots of people who have thrown the towel and tried elsewhere. but yet again, i can say that i dont match the vibe of californians because i tend to be way more conservative than the average californian (especially for my age group, 18-25).

EXACTLY!

The HW culture in SoCal & the SF socialist utopia in NorCal didn't help out at all on the dating scene. They are the ones, who destroyed the stable dating scene into flawlessness. This is why I don't live there anymore.

[elchevere]

"The dating scene is very competitive in the US Eastern & Northern Regions b/c there are many females, who have professional degrees. They are very ambitious & intelligent about themselves not to be insecure & irresponsible. I like that in professional women, who are not fake & shallow. This is why I LOVE living here."

...I miss that very much...when I went back to my 20th HS reunion on Long Island years ago seemingly half the women were doctors, attorneys, CPA's, management consultants, marketing execs...heck, even a bank teller was motivated to become the head bank teller. In short, the women were as successful as the men (a number even more successful), many were as physically attractive as the non-career, 100% looks focused women I run into here, and the conversation did not end when I stopped talking...I also miss the dress and style of women elsewhere. Fortunately, I travel quite frequently on work and do meet the type I am looking for in Chicago and Miami (yes, Miami...while there is the 'looks focused' attitude there, I have run into many a successful accomplished woman there who knows how to dress and act with class).....not saying they do not exist in SoCal, but it is much harder to find--i.e. needle in a haystack...I don't know why--chalk it up to cultural differences or the 'wild west' mentality??... Again, I am fortunate to have a position that allows me to travel and meet people on my terms--not theirs....then again, I feel for the women out here as well--not exactly a large male role model population either.

[CNYC]

I can't believe you guys are arguing over American Women when you live a few minutes from Mexico. Some of the most beautiful women are sitting in Tijuana.

Dating is awful in America period. It doesn't matter what coast you are on....it's our culture which ruins it.

[Bonez765]

Originally Posted by STORM-SHADOW

The dating scene is very competitive in the US Eastern & Northern Regions b/c there are many females, who have professional degrees. They are very ambitious & intelligent about themselves not to be insecure & irresponsible. I like that in professional women, who are not fake & shallow. This is why I LOVE living here.

I have heard about that. I would try to check it out but I have no plans to live in the North-East. Too cold and about as expensive as California (I don't want to be in a place that's expensive as California without the good weather).

[Bonez765]

Originally Posted by CNYC

I can't believe you guys are arguing over American Women when you live a few minutes from Mexico. Some of the most beautiful women are sitting in Tijuana.

this is what i would do if i was living in SD. I would hit up tijuana every weekend and have a stable girl. hardly any dudes from SD like venturing into TJ because they are scared out of their balls to do anything.

Dating is awful in America period. It doesn't matter what coast you are on....it's our culture which ruins it.

this is the ultimate consensus. dating sucks in the US. the culture is toxic for both genders and is only creating a bunch of entitled useless narcissists.