San Diego = Man Diego? Bad dating scene? (Irvine, Costa Mesa: low income, transplants)

[1AngryTaxPayer]

Originally Posted by HedgeYourInvestments

This is in no way true.
I'll agree with the first response to this post...

It has everything to do with the "bro" types as well as the military guys who think that they own the city despite not even knowing how to drive properly on a freeway. I used to live in Pacific Beach and had a good friend who was a bouncer at Typhoon Saloon when it was still the hip place to go. That bar would have plenty of attractive women in it, but the place would be so overwhelmed with those dime a dozen bro types that it was near impossible to actually approach a girl because she'd have bro after bro trying to impress her with his Ed Hardy t-shirt and trucker hat.

Apparently, it was working too.

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Originally Posted by elchevere

Yes..I was referring to most SD ladies, not all nor all of SoCal. True OC has closer to what I look for--this should not be a surprise since there are more and better paying jobs in OC than SD (and ditto for LA); thus, a greater likelihood of finding more professional women, who are more likely to have what I am looking for--style and class, are cool to hang out with, and have their own direction in life/independent. Some/few non professionals may have some of these traits but MY personal preference is for a career oriented individual with these criteria . They are more plentiful elsewhere from my experience that includes having lived in NY, Atlanta, SF, OC and through extensive travels. As I also mentioned in my earlier thread--what I am seeking is not limited to the East Coast (i.e. I love Chicago, not part of the East Coast, and always find what I'm looking for in that city)--easier to find the type of women stated above in these places and these women are also seeking their professional and/or accomplished counterparts--not some guy walking into a high class resto with flip flops and an Ed Hardy t-shirt with little or no aspirations.

Where I will take a little exception to one of your generalizations is regarding the expensive clothes. Just because one buys expensive outfits does not automatically infer style or class. I recall seeing many, not all, OC women ( from my 17 years living there) wearing expensive CFM outfits that made them look high priced escorts from Vegas--and these were worn outside night clubs and I'm no prude....to me a sexual turn on has not only involved physical attractiveness, but finding a lady who is as or more successful (preferably earned, not inherited) than me and is refined and has class....Maybe I'm living in the days of Leave it to Beaver but my success in finding this type in other states outside CA, as well as a few European ladies I have dated, suggests my mindset is not outdated.

Finally, the issue isn't just looks...a woman needs something inside...if it were just looks, I'd line up to date Nordstrom's front window mannequins--at least nothing stupid comes out of their mouths.

AMEN BROTHER!

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Originally Posted by Bonez765

just ignore her. she's mad that the dudes her age (early 40s) are too busy trying to chase the 20 something year olds. lolz

THANKS BRO!

[Pedro2000]

Originally Posted by 1AngryTaxPayer

If you can't get a date here you can't really get dates anywhere. Sheesh. People are people.

I don't think it's finding a date, it's finding somebody interesting. It's pretty easy to get dates if you have any social skills and don't look like you never take showers or leave your mothers house. But finding somebody you want to date over and over again, SD isn't exactly the best place for that.

Not sure if I posted this, but SD is like going to a nightclub or bar to find somebody you want to spend the rest of your life with. It could happen, but probably won't. It's just the way it is here.

[LuvSouthOC]

Originally Posted by rgb123

I can afford Irvine if that's why you recommend Costa Mesa. I'm looking at apts right now...everything from North Park in SD to Irvine... I do like certain things about OC. IT's a tough decision.

I'm not questioning your ability to pay, but I think it is not wise to live there as a single person for these reasons:

Irvine is super high in price due to the schools and work places there. (you need NEITHER);
Irvine rents are very high for what you get (it's nicer further south and not all flat);
Irvine is ok but too cookie cutter IMO, too far inland and flat.

I strongly recommend San Clemente as close to the ocean as possible (and if you can, close to downtown/Palizada) or if you insist on being closer to Irvine, Aliso Viejo (closer to Irvine, and close to Laguna also, tons of single professionals there). In the end, the QOL in San Clemente is very high; hard for many places to compete. The people are awesome, the weather terrific, the restaurants great, and you still have access to Central OC if you need it. Any guy you meet in Irvine will have no problem visiting you in SC, believe me.

And the girls in Newport I don't think you will want to be around. SC is the way.

Costa Mesa is mostly nice, albeit old, but you turn one street and it can get not so great.

[LuvSouthOC]

Originally Posted by Bonez765

just ignore her. she's mad that the dudes her age (early 40s) are too busy trying to chase the 20 something year olds. lolz

WOW that is rude.

[1AngryTaxPayer]

Originally Posted by Pedro2000

I don't think it's finding a date, it's finding somebody interesting. It's pretty easy to get dates if you have any social skills and don't look like you never take showers or leave your mothers house. But finding somebody you want to date over and over again, SD isn't exactly the best place for that.

Not sure if I posted this, but SD is like going to a nightclub or bar to find somebody you want to spend the rest of your life with. It could happen, but probably won't. It's just the way it is here.

The irony of it is that most people you meet are not from here that bring the tude. Most all the locals I met when I moved here were cool. It was the East Coast and Mid West crowd that moved here with something to prove, whatever that was. Don't hit bars if you want to find the local girls that might be keepers.

[sdurbanite]

Why do people from the East Coast assume they are much more smarter, interesting and successful than people on the West Coast? It reminds me of southerners who talk about how much more friendlier they are than everyone. I don't believe them either.

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Originally Posted by sdurbanite

Why do people from the East Coast assume they are much more smarter, interesting and successful than people on the West Coast? It reminds me of southerners who talk about how much more friendlier they are than everyone. I don't believe them either.

We live in this mass globalization system. No offense, but we as people must be aware about what goes on in today's society: architectural, commercial, cultural, economical, environmental, industrial, political, etc.. Everything is moving very fast & we need to keep up the pace. This is due to the technological mobile information: the internet, ipads, notebooks, smartphones, etc.. We want to know about info asap. Also I forgot about scientific discoveries: astronomy, biology, chemistry, health, medical, pharmaceutical, physics, etc.. If we don't know about our surroundings then we won't be able to function on this planet.

Anyway,

This is the reason why the EC is titled as the "US EASTERN ESTABLISHMENT." It pertains the architectural, commercial, economical, financial, historical, institutional, intellectual, & political influence across the nation & globe. In addition, the EC have this ambitious & focus mindset to strive in whatever profession or goal. Better yet, the EC craves about logic & wisdom into changing life realities. Need I text more?

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Originally Posted by LuvSouthOC

WOW that is rude.

FYI,

This is very common statement replies in the EC.