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I think I'd pick the first person who was close to me who died -- my paternal grandmother. She died when I was 8 years old and it was a terrible trauma for me at the time. It has been nearly 46 years and I still think of her often. In many ways, her death affected me more than any others since, because it was the first and I wasn't really prepared for it. I would love to have a little time to get to know her better and tell her how much I have missed her. From what I know of her life, I have turned out to be more like her than any of her 8 other grandchildren.
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Sorry, Mom and Dad, but I would choose my husband. I miss every single thing about him and US.
I would, too. My mom died when I was young, and I don't really remember her. My step-mother was really my mom from the time I was about 12. She and my dad died just a few months apart right when we adopted our youngest child, Andrew. Life and Death within 2 months. Still, though. I had a lifetime with my parents. Not enough time with my husband. I'm still so deeply, completely in love with him. My biggest fear is that when I get the chance to finally see him again, he'll have been reincarnated as a newborn baby...
I would not pick a family member or a friend. Those relationship were clear when those people died, and a day would not change years. I would pick someone whom I did not know very well, but who left an impression on me.
It might be Mrs. Balmer, the elderly high school English teacher, often mocked by students, who opened so many doors to the world for me. I never knew her personally and I would like even a brief chance.
Dr. Bro, the professor of the two semesters of a World Religions course in college. It was magnificently presented, so much so that it remains more than a half century later the most valuable course I took in college.
Annie, a distant cousin in Ireland, whom I knew briefly in the late Sixties. She was literally a peasant, but a woman with an impressive mind and a powerful personality.
I chose friend and was shocked to see that this group is in the minority. When I read the post I immediately thought of my best friend from school. I'm close with the other two, but there's something about a close friend relationship. We told each other things we would never tell family or lovers. So, don't feel left out; I'm here...
I'm in that minority, too. Mostly because I wasn't very close to my grandparents, was estranged from my dad, and my mom is (thankfully) still alive.
I would spend a day with one of my best friends from high school, who died of cancer at age 29. He had just spent a week visiting (we lived on opposite coasts) less than a year before he died, and he went quickly. I barely heard the news he was sick, and then he was gone.
I think of him often, and wonder what sort of person he would be today (30 years later). I do know we'd still be great friends, and that's what I miss....
I would spend it with my mother, who died when I was 12. I have seen pictures of her life, before my parents were married, and she was beautiful and had cute clothes. I ve heard stories of how she got on a train from Massachusetts to California in 1942, to marry my father. When she was in her 20s, she traveled with her girlfriends and had a lot of fun.
I would like to talk to her, woman to woman.
well, G Grasshopper, I appreciate your input and your opinion.
I was not meaning to put a wet blanket on anyone...I'm a realist and even though I would love to see my son again just to tell him I love him... Reality tells me it's not gonna happen. The 16 years I had with him were it.
But for those who enjoy fantasy, have at it!
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well, G Grasshopper, I appreciate your input and your opinion.
I was not meaning to put a wet blanket on anyone...I'm a realist and even though I would love to see my son again just to tell him I love him... Reality tells me it's not gonna happen. The 16 years I had with him were it.
But for those who enjoy fantasy, have at it!
My comments were not meant to minimize in any way your loss, Maggie Z. Everyone has their own way of coping. If this thread doesn't work for you, I respect that. My best to you.
My mom, no doubt about it. As we aged, she grew to be my best friend, and i spoke with her by phone every day - saw her at least once every 7-10 days.
I still miss her and it's been over 10 yrs since she passed. I AM her lol. Would love to have a day, or a meal, with her again. Love you and miss you mommy.
If you had one extra day to spend with one person who has passed away, would it be Family or friend?
Lover?
I would spend that day with an old man, an old friend of mine but it would be a hard thing to choose especially how much I miss my sister, my Dad and my grandparents. It was way worse when my grandfathers died cause they were the air I breathed.
I think I would choose a friend though, and that seems so strange, doesn't it?
Which one would you choose?
I was just curious which one would get more votes.
My father. He was a great guy who enjoyed life to the fullest, and touched the hearts and was pretty much embraced by all who knew him.
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