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Old 04-26-2011, 10:21 PM
 
Location: San Francisco, CA
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I wail and scream and gnash my teeth as a rend my garments and strew ashes on my forehead. You know...threaten suicide and that sort of thing.

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Old 04-26-2011, 10:43 PM
 
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What I mean about humbleness is that some people have to go on a tirade about how "great" they are and how much of a catch they are and how I'm missing out. A person with confidence and self-respect doesn't need to make a showcase about how awesome and wonderful they are. They should accept it as is, realize it's nothing personal, and move on.
this whole thread reminds me of the thread about the woman who was rejected by the gym rat who then proclaimed that he wasnt man enough to handle a real woman, which is saving face mechanism
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Old 04-26-2011, 11:31 PM
 
Location: Nevernever land
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Well last time I was rejected it was no big deal. I calmly walked away. Went home and plotted my revenge. That night I kidnapped her, gagged her, put her in the back of my Chevy Escort, (not bragging) then took her down to the river where at knife point we both agreed she'd love me forever. You see, some people just need convincing. She just needed a little time to realize what she had...But some how my forever and her forever were a tad different.

Anyhow, I know this might come as a shock to some, but we are no longer an item. I do plan on reconnecting just as soon as my twenty year sentence is up. Can't wait and looking forward to it....

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Old 04-27-2011, 12:44 AM
 
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Treat your rejections and acceptions like business and you will be successful.
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Old 04-27-2011, 01:21 AM
 
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I've been on dates with a few guys and when the time comes to reject them or tell them I feel there's no connection or compatability, they don't take it very well at all. Some have turned to insults, others have told me I didn't give them a chance to let them show their real selves, and others just won't accept it. I have always been honest with them so I don't think I deserve being insulted...I never lead people on, it's just simply that there's no chemistry and that's it. The latest one had me laughing quite a bit. He seemed normal, albeit maybe a bit strange and mysterious, but when I told him I couldn't continue seeing him and gave him my reason, he went on about how he was a highly successful and respectable person in "x" field and had several connections in that same field and that I missed out on a golden chance to be with a very wealthy person, etc. I had to laugh at that. Why can't people just accept defeat and humbly move on? What happened to having some self-respect?
Why do good threads like these get taken off-topic? Isn't email a better way for personal bantering between a few guys?

Anyway, rejection hurts a man especially if he is only being rejected by the women he contacts say on dating sites and if he is being rejected for superficial qualities such as looks, lack of height, lack of hair, not being that "masculine" appearing etc.................

This man may know in his heart that he would make a far better mate than the usual men who women picks these days. This man may know that most marriages end in divorce or wind up unhappy these days and it's only because women keep picking the wrong men and overlooking the right men.

So how does a man like this take rejection?

How should he take rejection?
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Old 04-27-2011, 02:25 AM
 
Location: Fairbanks, AK
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because I felt like taking a break after god knows how many rejections.

And many "you're a little short for me" snags.

I'll bide my time. Besides, I'm too busy saving lives at the moment to worry about dates apparently.
Wait, how tall are these women that you are dating? Everything seems tall to me but I'm 5'3" and my younger sisters are 5'1" and 5'5". Please tell me you're not dating girls that are like 5'4" and they're complaining about height....! Sad world, if that's the case.

That or you're stuck in an area with a lot of taller girls.

As for the OP, I don't know. Some guys act all weird during rejection, one dude even "shushed" me when I was trying to explain something to him as if I'm a 12 year old. So glad I broke it off with him.
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Old 04-27-2011, 04:15 AM
 
Location: Bradenton, Florida
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I've been on dates with a few guys and when the time comes to reject them or tell them I feel there's no connection or compatability, they don't take it very well at all. Some have turned to insults, others have told me I didn't give them a chance to let them show their real selves, and others just won't accept it. I have always been honest with them so I don't think I deserve being insulted...I never lead people on, it's just simply that there's no chemistry and that's it. The latest one had me laughing quite a bit. He seemed normal, albeit maybe a bit strange and mysterious, but when I told him I couldn't continue seeing him and gave him my reason, he went on about how he was a highly successful and respectable person in "x" field and had several connections in that same field and that I missed out on a golden chance to be with a very wealthy person, etc. I had to laugh at that. Why can't people just accept defeat and humbly move on? What happened to having some self-respect?
I only go on dates when I've been asked...so it'd be pretty funny for someone to ask ME--and then reject me. Guess it could happen though.
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Old 04-27-2011, 06:21 AM
 
Location: Wu Dang Mountain
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Why do good threads like these get taken off-topic? Isn't email a better way for personal bantering between a few guys?
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Old 04-27-2011, 08:07 AM
 
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Thanks for your offer but well sorry no Phil. I stay serious at all times and I try real hard to not take a thread off topic. But thanks anyway, fella.
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Old 04-27-2011, 09:32 AM
 
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Typically I tell them "enjoy your evening." or say it was a pleasure talking with them.
Dude you shouldn't say that ^ it makes you look even worse.
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