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Because she probably keeps getting dumped for women who have more realistic expectations
who the HELL waits a month for sex???
HE might wait a month to sex YOU, but he is most likely sexing SOMEONE ELSE in the mean time
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How original ... The old "you're gay if you aren't walking around humping everything in sight" trope.
Not ALL straight men think the way you do. Period.
Well, the vast majority of human beings, if not all of us, feel the desire to have sex. I certainly do. I feel the desire to have sex with probably 80% or 90% of the women I meet. Of course I have only met about six people for whom I felt romantic feelings (as opposed to just sexual).
I think a month is a long time to wait IF YOU ALREADY KNEW THEM.
Now, since most of you people want to start romantic relationships with people you have never met, then yeah I guess you have to wait. Going on romantic dates to get to know people, and not just starting out as platonic friends, makes no sense to me.
Personally, I'm not comfortable with that, and would rather start a relationship with someone I had already known for months or years on a strictly platonic basis.
You guys want conflicting things...you want to get to know someone in just a small number of meetings...and yet you think the person who does that is going to be somebody like me who wants a meaningful relationship. This is why so many people have problems.
Alpha males pursue...but alpha males are concerned primarily with sex. Beta males like myself want a relationship but we don't pursue aggressively. We want to get to know you as a friend first, not a romantic partner or a date, and have something develop in a more mutual and gradual and evolutionary and organic way. Many straight women, probably the majority, want to be "pursued". But that is in conflict with "get to know her first".
So yeah I don't agree with either side in this discussion, really. Although I'm more on the waiting side...but only because you guys want to date someone you didn't already know.
Well, the vast majority of human beings, if not all of us, feel the desire to have sex. I certainly do. I feel the desire to have sex with probably 80% or 90% of the women I meet. Of course I have only met about six people for whom I felt romantic feelings (as opposed to just sexual).
I think a month is a long time to wait IF YOU ALREADY KNEW THEM.
Now, since most of you people want to start romantic relationships with people you have never met, then yeah I guess you have to wait. Going on romantic dates to get to know people, and not just starting out as platonic friends, makes no sense to me.
Personally, I'm not comfortable with that, and would rather start a relationship with someone I had already known for months or years on a strictly platonic basis.
You guys want conflicting things...you want to get to know someone in just a small number of meetings...and yet you think the person who does that is going to be somebody like me who wants a meaningful relationship. This is why so many people have problems.
Alpha males pursue...but alpha males are concerned primarily with sex. Beta males like myself want a relationship but we don't pursue aggressively. We want to get to know you as a friend first, not a romantic partner or a date, and have something develop in a more mutual and gradual and evolutionary and organic way. Many straight women, probably the majority, want to be "pursued". But that is in conflict with "get to know her first".
So yeah I don't agree with either side in this discussion, really. Although I'm more on the waiting side...but only because you guys want to date someone you didn't already know.
No, it's not. A month is enough time for us to have three dates maybe. I only have dates once per week and preferably not at all during the week of my period.
Because she probably keeps getting dumped for women who have more realistic expectations
who the HELL waits a month for sex???
HE might wait a month to sex YOU, but he is most likely sexing SOMEONE ELSE in the mean time
Her posts sound like someone in their 30's to 40's who has been dating for ever and not met mr right yet...and she bitter or something
A month? What, you can't wait 4 dates? Grow up and realize that there's tremendous diversity in human psychology, for men as well as women. God didn't create man in your image. Shocker, I know. At the very least, it's useful to take the time to get to know someone to make sure she's not going to go bat-sh** crazy on you, after "bonding" with you over sex. Didn't they make a movie or two about that?
Seriously I can't count how many times I've met really hot women and started casually dating them without having sex. And after a month or so into it, finding out that they are not the type that I want to be having sex with. Two of these such women had incurable STD's. So after those close brushes with possibly contracting a gift that keeps on giving, I prefer to really get to know the woman first before moving on with the other. And the only thing that is 100% effective against such things is total sexual abstinence. I'm not a perfect angel by any means and I've done my share of risky business. But for the most part those were times few and far in between.
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No, it's not. A month is enough time for us to have three dates maybe.
Yes, I agree, but again, I would ONLY be on a date with someone if I ALREADY KNEW THEM. By know them, I mean, we are platonic friends, we met in a platonic context (at a meetup, a club, on public transit, etc), we have known each other for months, we talk often, we feel comfortable together. If they are a stranger, we would would not be on a date.
Yes, I agree, but again, I would ONLY be on a date with someone if I ALREADY KNEW THEM. By know them, I mean, we are platonic friends, we met in a platonic context (at a meetup, a club, on public transit, etc), we have known each other for months, we talk often, we feel comfortable together. If they are a stranger, we would would not be on a date.
Sure, that would be nice but I've never had a platonic male friend that I was attracted to. That's why they were platonic friends.
Yes, I agree, but again, I would ONLY be on a date with someone if I ALREADY KNEW THEM. By know them, I mean, we are platonic friends, we met in a platonic context (at a meetup, a club, on public transit, etc), we have known each other for months, we talk often, we feel comfortable together. If they are a stranger, we would would not be on a date.
Again mate I don't understand.
If it's not working for YOU why are you still doing it that way?
A month? What, you can't wait 4 dates? Grow up and realize that there's tremendous diversity in human psychology, for men as well as women. God didn't create man in your image. Shocker, I know. At the very least, it's useful to take the time to get to know someone to make sure she's not going to go bat-sh** crazy on you, after "bonding" with you over sex. Didn't they make a movie or two about that?
if she goes bat $h*t crazy on me, then at LEAST I got to sex her...lol
"a tremendous diversity in human psychology"...so nice if not confusing way of saying some men have let pseudo-intellectualism override their basic animalistic instincts...I have not...I let them coexist and know when its time for one or the other
its a matter of people fooling themselves into thinking when a man first lays eyes on a woman, mostly, but not always, the first thing he notices is her attractiveness, and sex is a part of that...
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