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Yeah, doesn't work. It does make a guy look arrogant, especially if he doesn't know you that well. It's uncomfortable, because you already know if you respond in any way other than smile and giggle, they're going to sound like you have even more of a problem and retort: "Oh chill out!" "Relax, would you?"
No ones getting anywhere with that, except ignored.
Just be human...practice the art of conversation with people you meet in everyday places. As an example:
I stopped by Trader Joe's yesterday after work (needed some groceries). The cashier (female, mid-20s, cute) was dressed in a pirate costume. As she was scanning the items from my basket, I asked "how's the pirate life treating you these days?" That started a pirate-themed conversation. We weren't all "argh, matey!" or other cheesy things like that. Instead, we casually and humorously discussed the plight of the modern-day pirate and how they've had to work hard to overcome their pasts. I wasn't hitting on her (I have a girlfriend) but I enjoyed the chat for what it was--a human interaction.
I think that people put way too much emphasis on the outcome. Like others have said, make a comment about the weather, her shoes, the fact that the elevator seems to be extra slow today, etc. Use that as a place from which to build, and don't worry if you walk away with a phone number. Just relax and enjoy!
Yeah, doesn't work. It does make a guy look arrogant, especially if he doesn't know you that well. It's uncomfortable, because you already know if you respond in any way other than smile and giggle, they're going to sound like you have even more of a problem and retort: "Oh chill out!" "Relax, would you?"
No ones getting anywhere with that, except ignored.
So just having friendly platonic conversation, basic small-talk is enough?
I remember years ago when I was helping my younger brother back when we were teenagers and he wanted to learn what to say to girls. There was this girl who he worked with and he saw her outside of work at the mall when he wanted to approach her. He wanted advice so I said just wing it and see what happens. Don't follow those step by step conversations and you'll eventually get used to it. He approached her said "hi" then she said "hi" back and he proceeded to say "I saw you walk home last night". At that moment I was like SMH! You fool! Long story short that was the last time they talked to each other. My advice is to think before you talk and think how someone might interpret things differently. Saying what my brother would have been downright creepy if I was her.
So just having friendly platonic conversation, basic small-talk is enough?
Yeah usually for starters, just act interested in her or what she's doing. And this:
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He approached her said "hi" then she said "hi" back and he proceeded to say "I saw you walk home last night". At that moment I was like SMH! You fool! Long story short that was the last time they talked to each other. My advice is to think before you talk and think how someone might interpret things differently. Saying what my brother would have been downright creepy if I was her.
Don't tell her you've been watching her.
Someone I always caught looking at me at work, even between shelves, came up to my desk and said: "so what were you doing at WalMart at midnight in a snowstorm?"
Really awkward, my co-workers thought so too...was he just watching?
Don't try to be clever until you get to know her
In the MGTOW world it's called "negging" I believe.
Not sure how they figure that that is going to work, but whatever. I fully support those kinds of guys in their endeavors. Makes normal guys more appreciated. LOL.
Yeah usually for starters, just act interested in her or what she's doing. And this:
Don't tell her you've been watching her.
Someone I always caught looking at me at work, even between shelves, came up to my desk and said: "so what were you doing at WalMart at midnight in a snowstorm?"
Really awkward, my co-workers thought so too...was he just watching?
Don't try to be clever until you get to know her
That's even worse than what my brother said LMAO. What makes it even worse is what are the odds he'd be there too? That means he didn't even bother trying to approach you and maybe instead watched you on your every move. As a man I've noticed woman looking at me but as a women I'd be more afraid since the amount of predators out of there is far higher than people think.
That's even worse than what my brother said LMAO. What makes it even worse is what are the odds he'd be there too? That means he didn't even bother trying to approach you and maybe instead watched you on your every move. As a man I've noticed woman looking at me but as a women I'd be more afraid since the amount of predators out of there is far higher than people think.
It just got worse though, with weird notes and loud comments that were inappropriate for a work place. So it was definitely a red flag!
Dating coaches, pickup artists, that's what they preach, they mention it's important to tease women
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