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[quote=evol7;46648174] Most days she isn't even up by the time I am leaving for work (I don't leave early, around 8:30 AM), and while she does laundry and cooks dinner, I feel like she doesn't do an amazing job of cleaning the house.
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This is sort of odd, as most toddlers/little kids are up much earlier than that. What are they doing while she's sleeping? Or is this the part where you "don't really know" how well she takes care of them?
Actually, I'm very happily single. I have many friends with wonderful relationships that I am literally in awe of, but I know full well that it's not for me because I like being on my own and am not terribly into compromise. Thus my FWB situation - he shows up, we have a wonderful time, and then he goes away and we don't concern ourselves with each other until our next encounter.
What mystifies me is when people get trapped in relationships with leeches like the OP's girlfriend out of a fear of being alone or never getting laid again. Is a meh relationship really adding that much to one's happiness? Why are so many people so afraid of being alone that they will sacrifice happiness and financial wellbeing? I know what a good relationship looks like and what it should do for a person, and I don't think anyone should settle for something less. I've watched several loved ones learn that lesson the hard way - their terrible relationships tainted everything in their lives and it's only now that they're free of them that they're developing real and functional relationships and developing overall happiness. Two of my favorite cousins got themselves out of terrible relationships and it turned their lives around - they are incredibly happy now and working on building functional and rewarding relationships with good people.
So yeah, when someone's in a less-than-uplifting relationship, my advice is to bail, work on yourself and then meet someone if you want to after you've achieved the necessary emotional intelligence. CRAZY, I know, right?
I don't really get that the OP is "trapped" in this relationship. I think he'd just like her to take the bull by the horns a bit and get a damn job lol.
I've been single going on about a decade. Trust me I know the cost:benefits of being single. There are good things and there are bad things. I'd be fine with compromise if it was the right person. Hooking up with women is fun and all, but there is an emptiness to all of that comes along with it. As the song says, with or without you lol.
I don't really get that the OP is "trapped" in this relationship. I think he'd just like her to take the bull by the horns a bit and get a damn job lol.
I've been single going on about a decade. Trust me I know the cost:benefits of being single. There are good things and there are bad things. I'd be fine with compromise if it was the right person. Hooking up with women is fun and all, but there is an emptiness to all of that comes along with it. As the song says, with or without you lol.
I don't see it as the OP being trapped either. They've been together for two years & I doubt her behavior sprouted up overnight, but it apparently didn't matter in the beginning because she's cute. But really, how cute is someone who takes advantage? OTOH, she isn't holding a gun to his head to force him to stay.
OP, if you're still around...
Red's priorities are out of order. She had two children and can't even drive. Think about that. How did she function before you?
If you boot her now, she'd either go back to daddy, or have to get her license, get a good paying job to cover daycare, insurance, rent, food, etc. It will be the best lesson of her life. Poor kids, though.
And your ex wife was okay with the sudden change in living arrangements in terms of the kids now sharing a room as opposed to having their own? She didn't file a motion contesting that?
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There are good things and there are bad things. I'd be fine with compromise if it was the right person. Hooking up with women is fun and all, but there is an emptiness to all of that comes along with it. As the song says, with or without you lol.
Sorry to be shallow lol
