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Old Yesterday, 08:01 PM
 
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From personal experience, every situation is different.

I have been in relationships where we waited for many months before becoming intimate, yet after intimacy, it soon faded and we broke up. So waiting is no guarantee.

But I do get the notion behind it. This is why you see so many celebrity couples break up so quickly. Their relationship was based on nothing more than physical sparks, and once that was over there was nothing else of any real substance behind the coupling.

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Ah, sex and dating. Dating and sex. Are there two words more complicated than this pair these days? Probably not.

There was a time when sex rarely, if ever, preceded a marriage, let alone a relationship. But it's 2019 and that's just not the way the world works anymore. (Le sigh.) Nowadays, you're not only stressing about what to wear or where to go on your dates, but also how many dates you should go on before having sex with this person you're into. It's a perfectly legit question, especially if you're a pretty sexual person, but one that, for many, is really tough to answer.
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Old Yesterday, 08:13 PM
 
Location: The point of no return, er, NorCal
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The amount of time to wait is determined by the individuals and what they’re comfortable with.
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Old Yesterday, 08:45 PM
 
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30 days.
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Old Yesterday, 11:30 PM
 
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5 dates. 1 "base" per date (after the first date, which is just a meet and greet).
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Old Yesterday, 11:53 PM
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It's a tricky one. Too much time between meeting and actually knocking boots can see a friendship form that no party actually really wanted. Too soon and either party can feel like mission accomplished...next!

I do think that comparing your own situation to that of celebrities is a major mistake. Celebrities have a smaller pool to fish from, yet their relationships can add or subtract from their career trajectory. They're the 1%.

Now I think about it with the benefit of hindsight, my most important relationships have come from instant passion with a good sense of humour, and plenty of food and drink. Let's go with that.
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Old Yesterday, 11:54 PM
 
Location: Scottsdale, AZ
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Soon as possible!
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Old Today, 03:55 AM
 
Location: California
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Depends on the people. I will always recommend the 3 date rule at minimum, there's no upside and much downside to moving faster than that. But many people need a lot more time than that to get into a sexual relationship with someone.
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Old Today, 04:58 AM
 
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I think if you need more time, it is probably best to choose from a group you regularly hang out with after many weeks or months of non-romantic interaction.
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Old Today, 06:08 AM
 
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How long? Until you, of your own volition, want to.
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Old Today, 06:48 AM
 
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5 dates. 1 "base" per date (after the first date, which is just a meet and greet).
I must be far older than you. I am guessing you are early high school. The idea of "bases" is something I have not heard of since then. Ohhh I touched her breast! How exciting! Titter titter. Giggle giggle.
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