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I really dont understand how you can say I am heartless. I think that I am trying to do this the best way I know how. I am trying to take my husbands feelings into consideration. I have been with him 18 years. I know how emotionally fragile he really is.
If your mind is already made up, just take the leap and get it over with.
Most here will not support it, because many of us came here because we were screwed over by our SO and came for advice. So when they see someone thats gonna do the same thing... they lash out.
If you plan on leaving after the holidays, I assume you have an actual PLAN for leaving, right? You've started looking at places to live (or are you keeping the house?), schools, your financial statements, etc? You keep saying you can't wait 2.5 months to leave, but it can take longer to work out the logistics.
If your mind is already made up, just take the leap and get it over with.
Most here will not support it, because many of us came here because we were screwed over by our SO and came for advice. So when they see someone thats gonna do the same thing... they lash out.
Finally someone who is making sense and sees the real picture about all of it. Including people projecting!!
i think that is what my husband is hoping will happen. He holds on to the hope that once he is gone, I will see what a mistake I made, and realize that I really do love him. It is false hope. I know my feelings are not going to chage. I feel that, by him holding to to this hope, it will prevent him from dealig with the reality and that he will end up more hurt in the end. I love him, he is the father of my children, I have been with him for 18 years (and I am only 32). But I am defantly not in love with him anymore. Maybe I neve really was. I dont know. but I do know, I want him to be happy. I hope he does meet someone great, who will make him happy and someone who is good to my girls.
What you may find is that even though you don't love him in the way you want to love him, you most likely will not find anyone as good. Just my thoughts - may sound silly - but I have found that to be true. You have a special guy there and I don't think you might realize that until it's too late. I also think you should wait until your kids are grown. That's very important. If you are that young now, it won't be long until the kids are gone.
capt cave man - how can you say my kids are better off with him. You dont know what kind of a mom I am. I am a great mom. I love my kids. I dont want to pack up and leave everyone and go wild and party and think of only me. I just want to have my own life separate from my childrens father. That does not make me a bad mother or a bad person.
You've certainly demonstrated that with your postings in these two threads.
NEVER SAY NEVER or be proud and judge another as you will quickly be tempted in the same manner!!!!!!!!
I'm not Biblical and I can act how I want as she put herself out here on a public forum.
I am certainly judged daily and that's fine because I can live with the things I'm being judged on. I don't need affirmation from others to live my life, unlike your OP here. Empathy is something that is willfully given, not commanded by someone trying to hold up a sign for a doomsday message.
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