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It was love not infactuation, just was not reciprocated fully by him which I suddenly found out.
It would have been a limit more than suitable for many other men. Though on this occasion it seems the sexual compatiblilty he was after was another level to what I had been led to believe.
And I believe he has found the next girl too, who must clearly like cloakrooms........ not much hanging around for him!!!
Yes you live and you learn. #Sigh# Thanks again everyone.
It was love not infactuation, just was not reciprocated fully by him which I suddenly found out.
It would have been a limit more than suitable for many other men. Though on this occasion it seems the sexual compatiblilty he was after was another level to what I had been led to believe.
And I believe he has found the next girl too, who must clearly like cloakrooms........ not much hanging around for him!!!
Yes you live and you learn. #Sigh# Thanks again everyone.
London, eh? Here is one for ya! Hopefully it was the last time he will do that to you!
LNTT_Vacationer, I'm sure there are a lot of women like myself who are NOT like that.
tongue-in-cheek While no one wants to see a pleasurable relationship end; I've never heard guy complaining afterwards about the being "used for sex" aspect. men and women are just drastically different; makes life fun and confusing. (I don't think you were used, in fact you stood up for how you felt and not a pushover.) best of luck!
I don't think you were used, in fact you stood up for how you felt and not a pushover. best of luck!
Yes, just would have preferred the proper information to be discussed in an unselfish way and not break up on my birthday as a type of birthday surprise that I hadnt anticipated. Shame he was so unable to compromise. #Sigh#
But now with some of these replies...... it will help to move on.
This guy is a creep. Who breaks up with someone on their birthday? Oh, I know! A D-bag. When you feel all sad, remember the bad stuff he did to you. He is not good enough for you. You need to cope with your sadness by keeping your mind busy, go to the gym, grow a garden, listen to happy music, put a picture of his lame face on a punching bag and burn some calories!
Thanks cdgolilocks. It's been tough to keep my mind busy as my mind ends up just analysing and keep wondering about the unanswered questions, etc.
Other annoying thing is each birthday now I will always remember that. When he didnt need to have done that to me, so selfish and thoughtless towards me.
This happens a lot more often and to a lot more women than you think. So you are not alone. Hopefully you'll learn to be happy that you stuck to your guns, because compromising yourself would've only made you feel worse, believe me.
We often place the fantasy of our ideal love over the man we are with, when there is no resemblance. Then reality sets in, and we are shell-shocked. The reason we are shocked is because all the time we were in love with our own fantasy, and we ignored the red flags. Over time, you will learn what the red flags are, and pay attention to them. This way, you will be able to gracefully exit without getting hurt.
I know you felt love for him, and I am not going to argue against it. But you definitely had some kind of fantasy picture in your mind during the time you were dating him, unless he is a clever imposter and superb actor, and couldn't keep up with the pretense anymore.
Pain is one way of learning. And I'm sorry you have to learn this the hard way. But somehow we all do. This is a painful but valuable lesson, and I guarantee next time you won't be used this way again.
It's been very tough and some days I find it really hard to think that I may never see him again when I thought we'd be at least friends, as there was not reason not to be.
Also, just the not knowing has been awful, when someone refuses to meet to talk and discuss it all through. Making the decision for both of us without really talking to me.
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#Sigh# Thanks again everyone. 
Here is one for ya!
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