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Aside from the fact I'm not really into big lavish weddings, inviting 200+ guests (half you may not even really be close with,) and throwing this big 4 hour extravagant party, but also~ it seems as though the whole white gown/church/over-priced catering facility is so over-rated and so commercialized now. So the answer is: God NO !! 4 hours and sooo long savings ?! Never.
I think I'd want to do something different, something everyone would remember, and only invite close friends and relatives. A destination wedding, a wedding on a cruise, something different, smaller, and more intimate. Of course, I'm older so that may be way ...
How about the engagement ring? Lots of women dream about that big shiny ring and I somehow think its similar to spening all your money on a wedding. What are your thoughts?
People should never spend so much money on a wedding since they might have to spend so much money on their divorce. So save it for the divorce if that happens.
I hear of many couples pressured into a big wedding to satisfy their large families but they don't have the money for such a large event. Personally, I think the money spent on a big wedding would be better used as a downpayment on a home ... especially in an expensive place like NYC.
If your parents aren't footing the bill and you're pinching pennies to pay for a big wedding, is it worth it?
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If Daddy Warbucks wants to foot the bill, fine, but you can have a nice wedding for a few hundred dollars in Mom and Pop's backyard, and (preferably) SAVE your money, or use it for NECESSITIES - a huge expensive wedding is NOT a necessity
Forget that! I want a teeny tiny wedding. I hate being the center of attention and am very frugal. I have no desire to spend a lot of money on a party. Instead, I'd take that money and go on an AWESOME honeymoon or use it as a down payment on a cool house.
Hell no.... I've been in ( part of wedding party )13 weddings and even though some were nice .. ALL of them involved a lot of STRESS and Money. Stress is not something I want to pay any amount for. I'd rather go on a dream vacation with the money, have a simple ceremony and thats it. I am not a center of attention type though.. for some it's their only 15 minutes of "fame" they'll have their whole life so they need it.
I hear of many couples pressured into a big wedding to satisfy their large families but they don't have the money for such a large event. Personally, I think the money spent on a big wedding would be better used as a downpayment on a home ... especially in an expensive place like NYC.
If your parents aren't footing the bill and you're pinching pennies to pay for a big wedding, is it worth it?
Ten years ago, I went to a wedding that cost over $100,000, the wedding was over after 5 hours, the marriage was over in less than 6 months.
Six years ago, I went to another wedding that cost $120,000, the wedding was over in 6 1/2 hours, the marriage is like a Timex, still ticking.
In NYC - it is virtually impossible to rent out a hall and throw the wedding for less than $30K all-in (justice of the peace, dj/band, food, flowers, transportation, pictures, tux, dresses); does not include engagement rings or wedding rings. I remember the first place we went to see, the guy quoted the price with a smile, like it was a bargain; $300 a head. He was booked solid for two years.
To answer your question: No, do something in your budget, a wedding is a celebration of two peoples love for each other - not to stuff other people's face with rack of lamb, caviar, a Venetian hour, 15 piece band, videographer, etc.
One thing is certain if you do throw a lavish affair, you will truly find out which of your guests are generous and which are like Ebeneezer.
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. What kind of ring are you getting him?
Instead, I'd take that money and go on an AWESOME honeymoon or use it as a down payment on a cool house. 
He was booked solid for two years. 
