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Same here (to bolded above). I just wish this country got a clue. Why would you bring a set of pans to the wedding? Money is absolutely the best gift for the bride and groom.
Didn't you get married in NY? I thought monetary gifts were pretty common in the metro area (or in most metro areas)?
Didn't you get married in NY? I thought monetary gifts were pretty common in the metro area (or in most metro areas)?
I did get married in NY, and I got money as a gift from 90% of my guests, but I always thought that it was cultural as Russians/Italians always give money. I went to other weddings in NY and I've seen people giving gifts not money.
The gift registry here is a long-standing tradition that supposed to help guests help the bride and groom furnish their new home. Which isn't so relevant anymore because people aren't getting married straight from their parents' home.
One the one hand, I know that money is appreciated, but on the other, to me as a gift giver, money is like saying, "I couldn't think of anything to get you." It feels lazy.
The gift registry here is a long-standing tradition that supposed to help guests help the bride and groom furnish their new home. Which isn't so relevant anymore because people aren't getting married straight from their parents' home.
One the one hand, I know that money is appreciated, but on the other, to me as a gift giver, money is like saying, "I couldn't think of anything to get you." It feels lazy.
I will never accuse a guest who give me money of being lazy. It means they are smart. Anyways, I got all the household gifts at my bridal shower. To me giving a gift at the wedding is cheaper than giving money. You could get a 100.00 toaster on sale for 50.00 whereas if you put 100.00 in the envelope its 100.00.
The gift registry here is a long-standing tradition that supposed to help guests help the bride and groom furnish their new home. Which isn't so relevant anymore because people aren't getting married straight from their parents' home.
One the one hand, I know that money is appreciated, but on the other, as a gift giver, money to me is like saying, "I couldn't think of anything to get you." It feels lazy.
Well, to each its own I guess, but to me money says: "I understand that you had to spend some money to put together this wedding, so here is a little bit back."
Maybe that's why we never registered anywhere. Anyone who prefers to get money as a gift shouldn't either. Otherwise you will end up with tons of stuff you don't really need.
I give gifts because I like the idea of giving you something that you will use and cherish, something that will remind you of me and your special day. Blowing it on two bags of groceries and your water bill just doesn't have the same charm for me, somehow.
I give gifts because I like the idea of giving you something that you will use and cherish, something that will remind you of me and your special day. Blowing it on two bags of groceries and your water bill just doesn't have the same charm for me, somehow.
You may think that they will use it and cherish it, and they may just roll their eyes and stick it in a closet. I learned that whatever seems nice and sentimental to me doesn't always get appreciated it. Wedding are expensive. People spend a lot of money just for you to sit there and eat. The fact that we came out not even "even" but ahead with all the money we got was priceless to us. We were able to take the money to the honeymoon.
I give gifts because I like the idea of giving you something that you will use and cherish, something that will remind you of me and your special day. Blowing it on two bags of groceries and your water bill just doesn't have the same charm for me, somehow.
Lets be practical here. I would much rather have the money to do what I want with instead of having to stare at some ugly vase or picture frame that I don't really need. I'd rather use it on food or the water bill. Food and water are crucial for survival aren't they????
I guess to each their own.
You may think that they will use it and cherish it, and they may just roll their eyes and stick it in a closet. I learned that whatever seems nice and sentimental to me doesn't always get appreciated it. Wedding are expensive. People spend a lot of money just for you to sit there and eat. The fact that we came out not even "even" but ahead with all the money we got was priceless to us. We were able to take the money to the honeymoon.
We're on majorly different pages here, MM, sorry. I'm not in the "weddings are fundraisers" camp and never will be. If all people care about is breaking even, then they should just not have a reception. Keep the money you'd spend on the wedding for yourself (although much of the time, traditional and lavish weddings are paid for by the parents, who aren't "paid back" by the gifts) and let your guests keep theirs. Weddings are fun and I like to see my friends and family have a nice time, but there is no wedding food or entertainment on earth worth its equivalent in cash. I'll give you $100 because I love you, not because I'm paying for some rubbery chicken and tepid rice that someone probably sneezed on.
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Originally Posted by lisalan
Lets be practical here. I would much rather have the money to do what I want with instead of having to stare at some ugly vase or picture frame that I don't really need. I'd rather use it on food or the water bill. Food and water are crucial for survival aren't they????
I guess to each their own.
Yeah, I'm sure you would. I'd rather have my money too, instead of giving it to some ungrateful, entitled bridezilla who's pissed because she's out the money for the extra-special mints she had flown in from Timbuktu because they were just the right shade of magenta.
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