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I found out yesterday that we will be attending the Jerry Springer edition Thanksgiving.
Hosts: My stepson and his wife. Some of you know from my other rants, They bought a big house that they can't furnish....two years in still only a big leather sectional and a dining table and a big TV. So the only places to sit are on the sectional, or at the dining table.
Guest list: Wife, and she says I'm going, so ME.
Her ex-husband... I get along with him, no big deal. Mandatory invite.
DIL father...he's bearable and a mandatory invite as well.
DIL mother....they don't talk so I don't think she is invited.
I'm sure wife's daughter and his fiance are invited but she works at a restaurant at a casino, so she may have to work.
If my stepdaughter does come, I can see her fiance's mother and sister being invited...fine.
DIL grandmother. Nice lady. Fine...
Hosts couldn't be happy with that. They invited my wife's sister, her husband, and their boys. I've been with my wife for geeze, I think it's 7 years now, and I've only SEEN her sister 3 times. Never have spoken to her. Wife and her sister have been estranged for I think at least 9 years. Sister actually evicted HER OWN MOTHER from a rental property, during February, and put all of their possessions in a dumpster because they couldn't afford to have them moved. They ended up in Florida and have not seen their grandchildren and great grandchild in over 2 years now. Yes, the sister made her mother homeless. They adopted a girl they got tired of and kicked her out at 18, and she is now pregnant with a mixed race child. Two years ago they were invited to something at the stepson's, the sister, boys, and the girl attended, not the husband. Wife and sister did not talk and wife tried to not be in the same room as her sister. The kids spent the day playing on their phones. Did not interact with anybody.
So now instead of a relaxing stress free day, I get to deal with a stressed out wife all day and thick tension in the air.
And her son says to my wife, "we invited aunt Kelli, is that alright?" He knows it's not but what's she going to say after the fact?
Yeah, their house, their party, they can invite whoever they want to invite. But they should know by now to not invite my wife and her sister to the same event, which means his mom gets invited and aunt Kelli does not.
And with the number of people, I need to leave my dog home....
Why do you care that it's a "mixed race child"? Are you against that???
My sister is hosting Thanksgiving dinner at her house and demanded that I make the sides! Then, she decided that it would be more of a Thanksgiving luncheon than dinner, so we should all be ready to sit down to our dinner around 1:00 p.m. My husband is totally ticked off and threatening not to come, but he will if I really want to go.
I may have posted this before. Years ago, I was invited THE WEEK OF THANKSGIVING by an extended family member. Not only was I asked to bring dessert (usually not a big deal), I was told exactly what dessert they expected me to bring (which was a big deal due to ingredients and lack of time to get them). Should be easy to get out of right? 3 days notice? Nope! As suggested above, I waited for hours to carefully compose my return text (something like "Thanks for asking! We already have plans but can't wait to see you at Christmas!). This caused a record amount of texts back and forth (why won't you come? don't you like it here? is it because of xyz?) and then 2 other family members decided to pipe up to tell me how awful I was for not rearranging all my plans and accepting the last minute invite.
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Originally Posted by Joe the Photog
2.) If you still go, be very careful how you park. Don't get blocked in. Park down the street if you must, preferably facing the direction you need to drive to get out. All this so you can leave on a dime if you must. Brought to you by year of get togethers with my former in laws
Gosh, so long ago... my ex was sure he could reprogram my aversion to large crowds. He convinced me to go to a party I did not want to go at for even a minute. Got there super early and pulled right up the driveway. I suggested he park on the street but no, that was good for him. Of course we got trapped in the driveway, and when I asked for the keys to leave he refused to give them to me. It was the last time we went to an event in the same car. I should have known better, having been in a bad situation without a car in the past, but you really don't expect someone you married to take such perverse delight in your discomfort.
This year my niece has volunteered to make the entire dinner! She will bring it here to my mom's house. I usually make cornbread dressing, but don't have to worry about doing anything this year. Think I'm going to browse Black Friday ads and just enjoy myself!
Sassybluesy. Oh my, so step-son may be attending Thanksgiving dinner with his mistress while his children are present? What about his wife, will she be there also?
Maybe I'm an old fuddy duddy, but to me you don't attend a family dinner with your mistress/lover (if you are still married).
No...I don't think wife will be attending.
It's an unusual situation...last Christmas, wife's mother had a stroke. Then, about a month later, she had a heart attack. It wasn't her first heart attack. So the whole family, (stepson, wife, 2 kids, and then 2 kids they are raising) moved in with the mother.
Then, the grandson got in trouble, and lived with us for a bit. At that point, stepson moves back to their previous home. Wife finds out that he's moved one of his employees (this paramour) in. So, last I heard, this woman is living with him, and now the grandson and the granddaughter are living with stepson as well.
The other 2 kids are living with the wife, and the wife's mother. That's the short version.
germaine, I agree with you. You don't attend Thanksgiving dinner with your mistress. But then again, you don't move your mistress into your house, and you don't give your wife an STD...and...and...and.
Yes yes! Funny I found this thread. I'm also dreading it too because my mil is coming
I just can't stand her because she has yet to admit and apologize for the crap she said about me ...
I remind my husband of this every day.
I'll bet that's a pleasant conversation to have constantly.
Yes yes! Funny I found this thread. I'm also dreading it too because my mil is coming
I just can't stand her because she has yet to admit and apologize for the crap she said about me ...
Bingo - and why would the OP bring the dog anyway?
Dog always goes there with us all of the time. But last Thanksgiving he was a 5 month old pup. Not a good time to bring him and I don't plan to. What I don't want is to put him in his crate at 10 in the morning and not get home untl 8pm. I can't even get an answer on when they plan to serve dinner.
Geez JimG2, I'd ask your wife if you both couldn't make a special trip to visit the grandchild ANOTHER time. That sounds like a nightmare I'd want no part of. If I was your wife, I'd refuse to play along with someone so reprehensible as her sister.
And then you could get reservations & take your wife to a Thanksgiving dinner at a nice restaurant. Perhaps you could even hunt ducks early in the morning.
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Gosh, so long ago... my ex was sure he could reprogram my aversion to large crowds. He convinced me to go to a party I did not want to go at for even a minute. Got there super early and pulled right up the driveway. I suggested he park on the street but no, that was good for him. Of course we got trapped in the driveway, and when I asked for the keys to leave he refused to give them to me. It was the last time we went to an event in the same car. I should have known better, having been in a bad situation without a car in the past, but you really don't expect someone you married to take such perverse delight in your discomfort. 
