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Old 12-25-2012, 01:33 PM
 
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It can be cheap (well as long as it's not McDonald's) but decent.
Hypothetical: A guy asks you out to dinner, you accept. Come date night, you find out that all he can afford is fast food. Do you end the date, or do you decide to change venues and pay?
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Old 12-25-2012, 01:33 PM
 
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Does not matter. What kind of guy in his right mind thinks a lady is desperate for offering to pay for a meal with a guy that she really enjoys being with. Makes no sense.
It matters.. we're obviously coming from very different perspectives. It's probably an age thing if you're in your early 20s. A woman offering to pay for a first date seems kind of desperate and sad to me.. that said, I realize that in certain contexts it's not... this is just a cultural thing. I guess younger people do things differently. That's fine. I'm not passing judgement. It's just odd to me.

Oh, it's perhaps a race/ethnic thing too. I've heard attitudes like yours coming from black men way more than I've heard them from whites... again, not passing judgement... whatever. It's just different than how I was taught to do things.
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Old 12-25-2012, 01:35 PM
 
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Oh, it's perhaps a race/ethnic thing too. I've heard attitudes like yours coming from black men way more than I've heard them from whites... again, not passing judgement... whatever. It's just different than how I was taught to do things.
Wtf?
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Old 12-25-2012, 01:35 PM
 
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Does not matter. What kind of guy in his right mind thinks a lady is desperate for offering to pay for a meal with a guy that she really enjoys being with. Makes no sense.
I tried that once with my ex bf on his invitation but when it progressed towards relationship status, it got ridiculous to the point of not even wishing me a happy b-day or getting nothing for Christmas while I had prepared him a present. It's like ever since I did the so-called 50/50 on his invitation, he got used to splitting the bill all the time, on every single date. It got annoying and that's part of reason I broke up in the end.

To make matters worst, for my birthday, he decided to split the bill with the $50 he gave me for my day. He was like ''Let's split the bill, give me the $50 I gave you and I''ll pay this time''. On my damn b-day..

No more again will I offer on a guy's first invitation.

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Old 12-25-2012, 01:37 PM
 
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Wtf?
I'm just being honest, tazz. I hear that women should contribute to dates from black guys way more than I hear it from whites.
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Old 12-25-2012, 01:38 PM
 
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I'm just being honest, tazz. I hear that women should contribute to dates from black guys way more than I hear it from whites.
Interesting. I've heard it from both rather equally.
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Old 12-25-2012, 01:40 PM
 
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I'm just being honest, tazz. I hear that women should contribute to dates from black guys way more than I hear it from whites.

Wow. No other response.
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Old 12-25-2012, 01:40 PM
 
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Interesting. I've heard it from both rather equally.
Yes that is interesting, as views usually split rather hard down racial lines when this comes up in a group of men.
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Old 12-25-2012, 01:41 PM
 
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Hypothetical: A guy asks you out to dinner, you accept. Come date night, you find out that all he can afford is fast food. Do you end the date, or do you decide to change venues and pay?
Depends on what fast food restaurant. There are good ones that are cheap but you can still have a good time. Anything is better than McDonalds (example: a cheap coffee shop and then walking around a park/campus or followed by going to the movies sounds good). I don't really ask much anyways but don't go to the extreme of not trying one bit.

If that's all he could afford but at least you tried and didn't took me to McDonalds ok. Now if he took me there on purpose (but could have done something better) as a testing game, OUT.
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Old 12-25-2012, 01:41 PM
 
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I'd advise anyone who's interested in participating in this thread to leave the race talk out of it as that is certain to get it closed.
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