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If it was a matter of just figuring it out the struggling posters here would have figured it out long ago. Making you life better is a good thing but changes nothing relationship wise. 46 years has taught me this.
My point was that competing for who has it harder is pointless. It would be better to spend your time working on making your life better than complaining about which gender has it harder when it comes to dating. Working on making your life better can include working on the relationship aspect of your life. Actually trying to do something is always going to be better than sitting there and complaining about it. Complaining doesn't accomplish anything. I never said anything about anything being easy. I'm simply saying that there is no prize for the gender with the tougher time.
Let me ask you a question - do you think that all women get the same attention from all the same men? Do you think that every single woman could date any man that she chooses? Or do you think that there are also subsets of women - say women that get asked out all the time, women that get asked out occasionally, and women that never get asked out?
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Why is there a competition for who has it the worst? I would think that people would rather figure out how to get what they want out of life than try to compete for who is the biggest loser.
lol good point dewdroplet76. Seems like my fellow virgins/unlucky guys didn't get the point though.
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Who has it tougher when it comes to dating? Who knows! What I do know is that a woman dressed up as a man is not going to have the same dating experiences as an actual man.
Well it should be close if the straight women believe her to be a man, right? If she "passes"?
Well it should be close if the straight women believe her to be a man, right? If she "passes"?
No - because dating is a two way street. It's about mutual attraction. And the dates she went on were not from women she picked up - they were from the internet. And they were not attracted to her. And most of the people she got to know thought she was gay.
There were some interesting things she talked about in terms of discovering things about the world of men - but dating women while pretending to be a man is not the same thing as a man dating women.
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No - because dating is a two way street. It's about mutual attraction. And the dates she went on were not from women she picked up - they were from the internet. And they were not attracted to her. And most of the people she got to know thought she was gay.
oh I didn't acutally look at the link. I thought this was the woman who wrote the book "Self Made Man", because she went to a bar and tried to get dates like a straight man might. She made sure she "passed" as a man before she went to the bar.
It's harder for women to find someone who will stick around...
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