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In my 20s? Maybe. Depending on the cirucmstances (attending school etc).
In my 60's? I may consider a man who had his mother come live with him. There is a difference.
LOL my bf pointed out that his uncle is in his late 30's and still lives with his mother...of course he owns the house. I wonder if that would make a difference to women or would they just see the "lives with mom" and get to getting
LOL my bf pointed out that his uncle is in his late 30's and still lives with his mother...of course he owns the house. I wonder if that would make a difference to women or would they just see the "lives with mom" and get to getting
Heck yeah it makes a diffenence!
Example A: flighty/flakey deadbeat lives with momma and leeches off of her....ick. Run away run away!
Example B: stable worker/saver who looks after his mother in her old age. That is solid. You know that this a family-oriented man who takes care of his loved ones. This may be difficult in the short-term, but if one can hack it, this man is a keeper for the long run.
This is just like the post on a couple being run down for living in separate bedrooms. There are so many variables that it is often difficult for outsiders to assess. The situation may range anywhere from bad – he 39 and never held a job - to he’s attending to his mother while she recovers from a serious illness. I can think of many other positive scenarios. The key is his relationship with his mother.
Some people always assume the worst scenario. This would often be their mistake.
A man living on his own is no guarantee that the apron strings have been cut Just check out the stories of women who supposedly married "independent" men, only to find out later that they have to deal with MILs from hell. These women find that they come second in life to their husbands - mumsy still comes first
I've thought about this before. I have a Korean friend and she lived with her parents all through college and for 3 years after she graduated. She met a guy in 05 and got married in 08. When she moved out her car was paid off, her credit is great and she had a lot of money saved. Her brothers and sisters pretty much did the same thing, she has a sister whose 27 and is still at home but has a good job and I'm sure the means to be financially independent. I don't know too many American families where that happens, it's pretty much a given that you go off to college and then you're on your own. If I had to chose though I'd prefer living at home with the possibility of financial independence over living on my own and having to call home for gas money
It is not uncommon for Asian families to do this. Alot of times, when the kids have great jobs, whether they still live with their parents or not, they will pay for their parents' mortgages in addition to their own expenses.
In my 20s? Maybe. Depending on the cirucmstances (attending school etc).
In my 60's? I may consider a man who had his mother come live with him. There is a difference.
If he's in his 40's, then she's in her 60's and retired. She might need to live with him. I think there'd be a privacy issue though--as well as parents STILL trying to run your life. I'm just glad mine are dead.
I'd say Mr. Right needs to grow up. If he's able bodied and in his mid-late 20s there's no reason to live with his mom. Obviously he has some issues. Even if you're only making minimum wage you can find a cheap place. I did when I was 23 and couldn't imagine living with mom/dad much past that age.
How about he got out of a divorce, he lost his job, he was sick. Minimum wage may pay for a place but it will not also pay for food and gas to.
Well, if she wants to deny herself a chance--then so be it.
It really all depends on the circumstances, however it also depends on knowing the guy in question. There is the guy who leeches off the parents by just living there and is basically no good.
I was in a different situation. While I did live "at home" until I was ~28, there was really no reason to change the "status quo" so to speak. It was a good situation for everyone, and man did I save some money then. It allowed me a lot of time after college to study for certifications and really get ahead at work instead of being worried about taking care of a house 3x bigger than what I need....which, ironically is the position I am in now.
She should go out with him once, find out if he is ambitious or not. If he isn't, then yes, she should move along. If he is living at home, it needs to be for the right reasons.
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This may be difficult in the short-term, but if one can hack it, this man is a keeper for the long run.
Just check out the stories of women who supposedly married "independent" men, only to find out later that they have to deal with MILs from hell. These women find that they come second in life to their husbands - mumsy still comes first
