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I didn't make that comment, it was THURSDAY that made that comment. See the previous posts.
Oh, I know!! I WAS responding to Thursday, but your quote was in with her post - sorry!
Also after rereading it I want to say I didn't mean it in a sarcastic way - and it does kind of come off that way. SORRY Thursday. I am seriously asking how long you have been married.
Marriage doesn't necessarily have anything to do with it (and I'll be damned if I'll discuss my co habitation/marriage on this board) and no the bodybuilder type isn't my interested at all. And there's a contradiction there 'and do whatever I say' while you tell me I should at the same time. Maybe I'm just used to creative people who have always enjoyed doing things and are mature enough to take a few suggestions and work with it. Though I'm usually out of town and haven't celebrated my birthday in ages - I shouldn't have to plan my own birthday party and I don't know many people who do.
Marriage doesn't necessarily have anything to do with it (and I'll be damned if I'll discuss my co habitation/marriage on this board) and no the bodybuilder type isn't my interested at all. And there's a contradiction there 'and do whatever I say' while you tell me I should at the same time. Maybe I'm just used to creative people who have always enjoyed doing things and are mature enough to take a few suggestions and work with it. Though I'm usually out of town and haven't celebrated my birthday in ages - I shouldn't have to plan my own birthday party and I don't know many people who do.
I have to respectfully disagree, marriage and how to have a successful one IS the issue the OP is having. It's all about communiction.
Those who are successfully married, or want to be, DON'T play games to "teach their partner a lesson". They speak plain English, and often. You don't leave your partner guessing and you take responsibility for having your needs met by being open with your spouse. Men especially are not mind readers. No matter how many broad hints you think you have dropped, men (in general, not all) need more than that.
[quote=Thursday007;10577158]Marriage doesn't necessarily have anything to do with it (and I'll be damned if I'll discuss my co habitation/marriage on this board) and no the bodybuilder type isn't my interested at all. And there's a contradiction there 'and do whatever I say' while you tell me I should at the same time. Maybe I'm just used to creative people who have always enjoyed doing things and are mature enough to take a few suggestions and work with it. Though I'm usually out of town and haven't celebrated my birthday in ages - I shouldn't have to plan my own birthday party and I don't know many people who do.[/quote]
Newsflash: there are many people in the world that plan for their own birthday party. Heck, there are even women that plan for their own weddings, which in my opinion is a bigger deal that birthdays, since weddings are once in a life time type of event (considering you only marry once ).
There's your problem right there: you're USED TO creative people, and I bet a million $$$ your husband is not. Since you supposedly marry him, I suggest you put up w/ the package in which you take upon your marital oath, and shut up. Good luck trying to change him though.
Tell him exactly what you want and leave it to him to make the arrangements. If he doesn't, then I'd say you have a reason to be mad.
Planning a birthday for someone else doesn't imply he knows how, but didn't for you.
You said "do some men need to be hit over the head with a shovel"
Yeah they do.
quote=sassieskier;10575549]I had my 30th birthday recently and my husband didn't do anything for it. For months leading up to it, I had been telling him that I want to do something special, since I only turn 30 once. We moved away from our family and friends a few years ago and every birthday since has just been the two of us and I miss the big fuss. I gave him hints, like asking our friends to meet us for dinner, or a quick trip somewhere, a night out on the town, something more than what he has done for me on my birthday. (FTR, I have done things for him for his birthday and he hasn't had his 30th yet.)
So my birthday came, we had cake at home and he gave me a gift (that I had picked out and saved a photo on the computer and he went and bought it that day). And that was it. Once the candles were blown out, it was over.
Now, I just found out that a friend of his (a woman that I've met once before) wants him to help her plan a 30th birthday party for a friend of theirs (another woman I met once before) in our city. He said he'd definitely help and be glad to.
I don't get it. He can plan a party for her but can't do anything for me? How am I supposed to suppress my anger when I'm invited to this party, knowing that my husband did this for someone else and not for me?[/quote]
Totally agree with everyone who pointed out that hinting is not an effective means of communication.
The husband bought her the gift she wanted because she specifically picked it out. She should have specifically picked out a place/guests and maybe that would have happened,too.
I feel bad for guys when they miss subtle things and then get in trouble for it. I mean, how would we women like it if our husbands got all mad every time we were emotional, or worried too much or cared about every last detail? Let the poor man be a man, and tell him straight out if you want something.
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Originally Posted by sassieskier
So my birthday came, we had cake at home and he gave me a gift (that I had picked out and saved a photo on the computer and he went and bought it that day).
I had my 30th birthday recently and my husband didn't do anything for it. For months leading up to it, I had been telling him that I want to do something special, since I only turn 30 once. We moved away from our family and friends a few years ago and every birthday since has just been the two of us and I miss the big fuss. I gave him hints, like asking our friends to meet us for dinner, or a quick trip somewhere, a night out on the town, something more than what he has done for me on my birthday. (FTR, I have done things for him for his birthday and he hasn't had his 30th yet.)
So my birthday came, we had cake at home and he gave me a gift (that I had picked out and saved a photo on the computer and he went and bought it that day). And that was it. Once the candles were blown out, it was over.
Now, I just found out that a friend of his (a woman that I've met once before) wants him to help her plan a 30th birthday party for a friend of theirs (another woman I met once before) in our city. He said he'd definitely help and be glad to.
I don't get it. He can plan a party for her but can't do anything for me? How am I supposed to suppress my anger when I'm invited to this party, knowing that my husband did this for someone else and not for me?
I can't say for certain, but something tells me there is more going on here than meets the eye. This appears to be a symptom of a deeper problem. Without more information it is impossible to comment.
I can't say for certain, but something tells me there is more going on here than meets the eye.
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Originally Posted by 20yrsinBranson
This appears to be a symptom of a deeper problem. Without more information it is impossible to comment.
20yrsinBranson
If these women are friends and shes married to this man, my question is, Why has she only met them once?
Yes I did say it.
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