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So basically you faked that you were a decent guy...but the truth of it is that you keep porn of your ex that "means nothing to you" ...and you wonder why she wants nothing to do with you?
Sorry but that "little girl" has standards and you don't make the cut.
Get over it and bang some trash that does not care about if you respect your ex and yourself.
I would be totally repulsed and think you were pathetic. I would not of been mad but running out laughing and happy that I only wasted 4 months.
Just wondering...what's it like to be the lone salmon swimming upstream?
Thanks again for all the replies and perspectives, even you pitt, I value all insights.
Urban, you are right, she did not "accidentally" stumble onto the file. She admitted at the time that she was intentionally snooping, and the file was in an unnamed folder amidst many other files and folders that were related to my old school work, projects, etc.
Her rationale for the snooping was that one of the first times she came over to my place, fairly early in our dating, she had hopped onto my computer to check her email or facebook or some such thing, and at that time she found a few bookmarks in my browser for some playboy centerfold type pics. She said it made her feel that I was not satisfied with her. I replied that I had been single for 6 months before ever meeting her and effectively celibate from my ex for 4 months on top of that, and that those pics had nothing to do with her, and that I no longer felt a need to look at them. The issue eventually passed, though without any true resolution, or I think belief in me on her part.
She texted me today saying she was coming over to pick up her phone charger that she had left in my car after the trip. I let her in and tried to talk to her about it. I reiterated my points and my explanations and she listened, but when I asked for her thoughts her reply was that she simply did not understand why I would not have wiped the file immediately after breaking up with my ex and that she was no longer sure she could be physical with me without feeling disgusted and thinking about my "skanky".
I'll admit that I'm frustrated. Since I've been with her I've spent virtually every free moment I have happily with her, I've told her my feelings, shown PDA, shown and expressed my desire for her, and introduced her to my friends and more importantly my family. I don't feel like I deserve to be treated like a guilty man, but find that I am starting to feel like one.
I accept her for who she is, her past is her past and none of my business, and more importantly, her past is what made her into the person that I care about today. I just feel like I am having to not only forge a new relationship with her, but rehash my painful old one so she can feel that I am as invested in her as she says she is with me.
Just wondering...what's it like to be the lone salmon swimming upstream?
HE DIDN'T DO ANYTHING WRONG - SHE DID.
Keeping sex tapes of you ex around is right when you have been broken up for almost half a year? Oooooooook. That is just wrong and reeks of creepy dude.
I love how people will stick their body parts in each other but god forbid they share whats on the computer!
As far as being a lone salmon...freaking love it. I would rather be a salmon than a dirty bird going with the herd.
Keeping sex tapes of you ex around is right when you have been broken up for almost half a year? Oooooooook. That is just wrong and reeks of creepy dude.
I love how people will stick their body parts in each other but god forbid they share whats on the computer!
You could keep them for five or ten years after you've broken up...if you're the sort of person who LOOKS at porn. Perhaps you don't look at it while you're actually IN a relationship, but only while single.
Personally, I don't need videos of the event to remember every single woman I have slept with in the past. So...how do you know I'm not thinking of one of the others when I'm having sex with the current one? Should we be instituting mindwipes, just to play it safe?
So basically you faked that you were a decent guy...but the truth of it is that you keep porn of your ex that "means nothing to you" ...and you wonder why she wants nothing to do with you?
Sorry but that "little girl" has standards and you don't make the cut.
Get over it and bang some trash that does not care about if you respect your ex and yourself.
I would be totally repulsed and think you were pathetic. I would not of been mad but running out laughing and happy that I only wasted 4 months.
Best post in this thread, pitt.
There's a lot of things people in this thread are ignoring about the OP.
He could be a supplier for online porn boards. Who knows how many sites the video got uploaded to? Nobody makes tapes for personal reasons (yeah, some weirdos actually do too). Well, is that something you show for the future kiddos on your 25th marriage anniversary?
And the guy could have taped the new chick too. She could have been absolutely mortified she may already have been uploaded into your nearest porno board.
She finally found out she was banging human garbage.
Thanks for that insight Antlered, I know you're probably just saying that in the hopes something of mine (which actually now has all been erased) will end up in one of those places so that you could then get your hands on them :-P
Thanks for that insight Antlered, I know you're probably just saying that in the hopes something of mine (which actually now has all been erased) will end up in one of those places so that you could then get your hands on them :-P
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But seriously, if you are making home porn, use hookers. Don't trick the normal women around you.
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