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Oh my god...what if they GAVE IT TO SOMEONE. You did not protect your ex's privacy very well. And I would not want a thing to do with anyone who did not give a thought to something like that. What do you think that says about you to her and your level or respect and caring for your past loves?
Says you don't care really. It did not mean a thing and she (current girl) is not going to mean a thing either. I would not want to be with a porn star. Even a private one. I don't know what career she has on hand but the last thing I would want to be connected to is a porn scammer if I was in a position of power/respect in the work force. Who knows how many virus programs harvested that from you....
And what did you do to delete it? Drag and click? LOL Its still there. I am sure you did not use gutmann or a bleach.
And there have been several pages castigating the girl that she is insecure and is a "clingy" drama queen.
Well, C/D champs missed the plot, big time.
The woman was right in every single way, even the stupidest one, to be concerned about being in a relationship with a creepy, sexual deviant
she is totally at fault here.
she snooped.
and she stormed out like a little girl instead of trying to understand your very reasonable and honest response.
this is only 4 months in, do you really want to deal with an insecure person for any longer?
oh and the real drama queens are those two posters that think a sex tape is deviant. or think some really wild scenarios up in their head.
And there have been several pages castigating the girl that she is insecure and is a "clingy" drama queen.
Well, C/D champs missed the plot, big time.
The woman was right in every single way, even the stupidest one, to be concerned about being in a relationship with a creepy, sexual deviant
Pretty lofty talk for someone who said that porn was one of his favorite pastimes in college and who asked several times for the OP to send him this particular film.
Does it seriously REALLY blow your people's minds that someone would not want to be with someone who does that?
Would you encourage your daughter to date and tape? I don't think so joe!
DUDE...She thinks its nasty and you are nasty for having it. Is it really that complicated? And that program is buggy I would not trust that.
No, it doesn't blow my mind. Some people really don't like porn--whatever. What raises my eyebrows a bit is the insinuations that he is distributing porn or taping the new girlfriend without her knowledge. I don't remember whether you or Antlered threw out the "human garbage" chestnut, but that was uncalled for.
DUDE...She thinks its nasty and you are nasty for having it. Is it really that complicated? And that program is buggy I would not trust that.
No, the silly little girl is "hurt" and "insecure" because now she thinks she's not enough for him. Typical stupid silly little girl reaction. She needs to grow up and realize that she's not his first, and most likely, not his last, the was she's acting.
Thanks again for all the replies and perspectives, even you pitt, I value all insights.
Urban, you are right, she did not "accidentally" stumble onto the file. She admitted at the time that she was intentionally snooping, and the file was in an unnamed folder amidst many other files and folders that were related to my old school work, projects, etc.
Her rationale for the snooping was that one of the first times she came over to my place, fairly early in our dating, she had hopped onto my computer to check her email or facebook or some such thing, and at that time she found a few bookmarks in my browser for some playboy centerfold type pics. She said it made her feel that I was not satisfied with her. I replied that I had been single for 6 months before ever meeting her and effectively celibate from my ex for 4 months on top of that, and that those pics had nothing to do with her, and that I no longer felt a need to look at them. The issue eventually passed, though without any true resolution, or I think belief in me on her part.
She texted me today saying she was coming over to pick up her phone charger that she had left in my car after the trip. I let her in and tried to talk to her about it. I reiterated my points and my explanations and she listened, but when I asked for her thoughts her reply was that she simply did not understand why I would not have wiped the file immediately after breaking up with my ex and that she was no longer sure she could be physical with me without feeling disgusted and thinking about my "skanky".
I'll admit that I'm frustrated. Since I've been with her I've spent virtually every free moment I have happily with her, I've told her my feelings, shown PDA, shown and expressed my desire for her, and introduced her to my friends and more importantly my family. I don't feel like I deserve to be treated like a guilty man, but find that I am starting to feel like one.
I accept her for who she is, her past is her past and none of my business, and more importantly, her past is what made her into the person that I care about today. I just feel like I am having to not only forge a new relationship with her, but rehash my painful old one so she can feel that I am as invested in her as she says she is with me.
I'm not sure how to proceed.
Not sure how to proceed?? Call me..I'd kill for a good man like you!! And you can even keep the playboy porn stuff..I look at porn too! Doesn't bother me a bit.
But seriously, if you are making home porn, use hookers. Don't trick the normal women around you.
Im sorry..perhaps I missed this. But where did the OP say he "tricked" the normal women (so only abnormal women have ever did a video with a boyfriend?) around him???? Then you called the OP human TRASH..or garbage? Wow. Harsh.
If the woman AGREES to it..its just as much on her as it is him.
Listen, "normal" people do that sometimes. Men and women. They are in love, they think it will be kool, funny, sexy, whatever, to tape themselves. Call it a lack of good judgement or whatever, but if both people are into it, dont blame just the one.
And there have been several pages castigating the girl that she is insecure and is a "clingy" drama queen.
Well, C/D champs missed the plot, big time.
The woman was right in every single way, even the stupidest one, to be concerned about being in a relationship with a creepy, sexual deviant
Oh my GOD!! He is a sexual deviant because he made a tape with a WILLING partner?? WOW. You dont think the term sexial deviant is a bit harsh?? What do you call a rapist? You put this guy in the same category?
Are you part of some weird nutso religious cult?
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