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Location: Pelion, South Carolina/orig. from Cape May, NJ
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Don't be too hard on your GF. It's early in your relationship and naturally she's curious about your past.
This will blow over. I myself am a jealous person but even I would give you the benefit of the doubt and believe that you forgot about the file.
[quote=pitt_transplant;14335596]Keeping sex tapes of you ex around is right when you have been broken up for almost half a year? Oooooooook. That is just wrong and reeks of creepy dude.
I love how people will stick their body parts in each other but god forbid they share whats on the computer!
As far as being a lone salmon...freaking love it. I would rather be a salmon than a dirty bird going with the herd.
Perhaps you missed the part where he said he just got the the computer hard drive back ONE WEEK AGO??? He hasn't had access to this stuff "half a year"
"I explained to her that during my trip back to my parent's home about a week ago I picked up the hard drive that that file was on"
Actually Redisca, I hadn't been "holding on" to the tape, at least not in the way you (and the gf) seem to think/imply. As I stated in my OP, that hard drive was in a box of other computer parts in my old room at my parent's house. I left it there at the time as an "out of site out of mind" I guess and hadn't really thought of it since. I only picked it up the week before when my dad said that anything I didn't come pick up he would donate or use for himself.
And as for the sex tape itself, my ex actually had a copy I gave her at the time we made it and presumably still does unless she also deleted it. I have no plans for a future in politics or anything so I don't think about what or where it may be (there may still be hope for you antlered!).
Sorry you have to keep repeating yourself - some women will ALWAYS find the man at fault, even when it's clear the woman was WRONG
Pretty lofty talk for someone who said that porn was one of his favorite pastimes in college and who asked several times for the OP to send him this particular film.
How unfortunate you read my posts in a very literal sense, J
Okay, so you DON'T think he's a deviant? I was wondering!
I didn't actually mean to ask him to send it to me. When people miss the humour between those lines, that's really unfortunate.
I am not taking it back. Normal people don't make sex tapes. It takes whacked out ones to make it. Those that appear on howard stern or jerry springer.
Champ still needs to divulge details as to why the new girlfriend is truly worried about the tape or its content. Imagine snooping through someone's computer and finding child porn. Would you actually find the person doing the snooping at fault? It's a world full of creeps. That's my whole point.
Thanks all for the kind, and not so kind, words. I appreciate all the comments and perspectives.
To clarify, my gf is in her mid/late 20's and I'm in my early 30's. She wasn't upset about the fact I had made a tape all those years ago but that she felt I had held on to it for to long. She had also told me she had done similiar things before but that she had immediately deleted them after breaking up with her ex and couldn't understand how I would not have unless I still had issues, which I do not.
I didn't actually mean to ask him to send it to me. When people miss the humour between those lines, that's really unfortunate.
I am not taking it back. Normal people don't make sex tapes. It takes whacked out ones to make it. Those that appear on howard stern or jerry springer.
Champ still needs to divulge details as to why the new girlfriend is truly worried about the tape or its content. Imagine snooping through someone's computer and finding child porn. Would you actually find the person doing the snooping at fault? It's a world full of creeps. That's my whole point.
Ant, you know I love ya, but I think you are being a bit naive and severely judgemental about this.
PLENTY of emotionally healthy people in long term relationships and marriages make video's of themselves in the bedroom. There is nothing "deviant" or dirty about it. They are simply recording what they are already doing anyway
Our OP was in a SEVEN YEAR LONG relationship. He didn't say he videos every girl he has dated since or anything. In long term relationships people often look for ways to spice things up and made their sexual activity together fresh or new - videoing is just one of those ways. When you love and trust your partner you feel safe doing this with them.
Sorry honey, normal people DO make sex videos at least once in their long term relationships.
Thanks all for the kind, and not so kind, words. I appreciate all the comments and perspectives.
To clarify, my gf is in her mid/late 20's and I'm in my early 30's. She wasn't upset about the fact I had made a tape all those years ago but that she felt I had held on to it for to long. She had also told me she had done similiar things before but that she had immediately deleted them after breaking up with her ex and couldn't understand how I would not have unless I still had issues, which I do not.
OMG, she can't be serious. Here's why she threw hers out, and you kept yours: It's what chicks do, it's what guys do.
She's that old? Tell her she's emotionally immature... more like 15, like I suspected.
Is she even aware that you masturbate? Don't tell me you don't. Ask her and see what she says, then report right back!
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